This Life is What You Make It



   “This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.” ― Marilyn Monroe

Hmmm…this makes me sad to think how strong Marilyn’s message is yet how tragically she died. I oftentimes find myself not heeding my own advise, not walking my talk. But I’ve been more mindful of it lately as pretty impressive stuff sometimes spews from these lips of mine.  Go figure as I laugh at myself so much because of what goes on in my head.  Gee, I have a dilemma. What would Dee advise?  Scary thought.

Anyway, while reading this quote I’m thinking about girlfriends. And how lucky I am to have so many true best friends. I realize that best being superlative and can only be one but shut up head and let me have as many best friends as I feel I do.

I just said good bye to one of my bestest (don’t go there) on Friday. She’s returning to the mainland indefinitely, but I know she’ll be back. She spent the last week or so with my hubby and me and I really don’t think biological sisters get along as well as we.

You know, back in the day, I had a lot of friends but never allowed myself to be truly open, rigorously honest, or myself. Guess because I had no idea who self was. Now that I’m in recovery and clear-minded (don’t go there either), I get to be me, not the me who needs to impress you. I get to be honest and open and no more hiding.  I get to be a true friend and cherish the many genuine friends I have in my life today.  But I know I am just one drink away from flushing that all down the toilet.

Yes, Marilyn, I believe in myself, today, one day at a time. I GET TO keep my head high, my chin(s) up, and I sure do smile a lot.  I am truly blessed.  With that, much aloha to you and have a mighty fine day…Dee.

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