Turning Doubt and Uncertainty into Hope

Day 3 – Turning Doubt and Uncertainty into Hope

“There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope.” – Bernard Williams

Self-doubt and fear in the face of uncertainty can paralyze us and blind us to the good options that are available. Even in the midst of doubt and uncertainty, we always have within us the creative capacity to meet the situation and make use of it for our personal development and growth.

In today’s meditation, we find that when hope is awakened in the silence of meditation, we become self-confident and fearless. This allows us to look at uncertainty calmly and clearly, and to find the opportunities for growth and new possibilities.

OPRAH:

We are now on day 3.  Today’s meditation is called “Turning Doubt and Uncertainty into Hope.”  When it feels like nothing is going your way, when it seems that your path is being blocked by outside forces, at work or in your relationships or even with everyday problems, what is your typical reaction?  Do you move towards feelings of “Ugh.  Why me?” perhaps without even thinking it, or do you pause and think about “What is my life trying to tell me right now”?  That is the question.

How you respond to the difficult things that happen to you can mean the difference between a life of anger or joy, between despair and hope.  Eckhart Tolle describes it this way, “Life is an adventure.  It’s not a package tour.  Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.  If you’re dissatisfied in the unsettled state you can’t hear the guiding messages from your higher self.”  I believe that uncertainty is really your spirit’s way of whispering, “I’m in flux, something’s off balance here.”

For me hope lives in these uncomfortable moments when you have doubts and don’t know what to do.  Well, when you don’t know what to do, get still.  Like Eckhart says, “Wait for a guiding message from your higher self.  That’s what hope is rising up to meet you if you clear space and allow it.  Let’s open up to hope as Deepak guides us toward getting comfortable in the uncomfortable spaces.

DEEPAK:

On the journey of hope fear can hold us back, especially in uncertain times forces out there feel beyond our control.  But ultimately it is not the uncertain political or personal circumstances outside us that determine whether we respond with fear or hope.  By itself uncertainty is neutral.  Great things can emerge from it, like the next important discovery, insight or realization.  Everything depends on how we choose to relate to uncertainty which is just life’s constant stream of new events and challenges.  Becoming a source of hope, strength and optimism allows you to embrace uncertainty.  Without this inner strength of hope we are left to suffer through crises and uncertain times which leads to self-doubt and fear.  You feel weak and afraid, not because of outside forces beyond your control but because of the self-doubt that comes from being disconnected from your true self.

When you doubt yourself you can’t trust anyone or anything.  The most loving and trustworthy person will only reflect your inner doubt.  You fear being let down which is the same as expecting to be let down.  People who have been wounded by failure in their career, finances or personal relationships typically believe circumstances outside themselves are at fault.  “Life,” they say, “is unfair.”  With that mindset you have already surrendered your power to the thing out there that defeated your hopes.

But imagine two people hired on the same day at the bottom level of a company, perhaps as an intern.  They both say, “I hope to be president of this company someday.”  One is full of self-doubt and the other of hope.  We can break it down into the ingredients that make dreams come true.  Taking responsibility for your destiny.  Embracing the possibilities that arise today.  Being open and alert to changing situations.  Having a confident, flexible response to change.  Finding solutions when problems and obstacles block the way.  None of these depend on God-given attributes, good luck or a happy childhood.  They are awareness skills and it’s totally realistic for you to develop them if you use hope as part of your inner strength.  That’s the vision we are on our way to achieving together.

CENTERING THOUGHT

Hope makes me strong and secure.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Eem Hreem Kleem

I radiate confidence and strength.

DEE:

Developing hope does not come easily nor overnight.  At least it did not for me.  I believe being fear-based develops over a lifetime of experiences without having faith in oneself, nor a strong relationship with a higher power of your understanding.

As a child the bullying begins.  Not only are we battling with peers who put us down, but sometimes we are, unfortunately, demeaned by parents and teachers whom we disappoint.  And then we get into the workplace where our bosses put such demands on us that we oftentimes put everything, including our families and ourselves, on the back burner to get the recognition we think we so much need and deserve.

How could I have allowed this to happen?  I did not feel good in my own skin.  I did not realize the asset that I am, nor the gifts that I have.  I had to prove myself.  How stupid and what a waste.  But it was part of my journey that brings me to this place of contentment and love of self where I am today.  One day at a time.

I cannot say that the disease of alcoholism brought me to that place of insecurity, but I can say that it relieved that self-doubt, for a while.  But thankfully my disease brought me to a place of desperation where I could no longer cope with myself nor my drinking.  It brought me to a place of surrender.  And from there I found recovery, not only from my disease but from that self-doubt.  For me it was through the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

There are many organizations and groups available to those in need of freedom from self-doubt.  I truly hope that you know you are not alone if you find yourself thinking you are a loser, a waste of space on the planet, that you can’t do anything right.  I was there.  But with a fellowship of loving and caring people who loved me until I could love myself, I no longer find myself in that deep and dark place.  The weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders.  I can accept things, even embrace things, as they come.  Life is good.  I am good.

Aloha, Dee

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From Deepak and Oprah’s 21-Day Meditation Series on HOPE.

Hope is Always Available

Day 2 – Hope Is Always Available

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” – Desmond Tutu

In today’s meditation, we learn that hope is an intrinsic part of who you are, like the love and compassion in your heart. But to make this hope a real and powerful force in life, we need to activate it with self-awareness. Once genuine hope is ignited, it transforms your reality and eradicates fear and uncertainty.

OPRAH:

Welcome to Day 2, “Hope is Always Available.”  Anything can be a miracle, a blessing, an opportunity, if you choose to see it that way.  When you see life through a lens of hope, everything can change.  This can be a challenging concept of practice when you’re in the center of a storm.  I know this is true.  I’ve had a few storms myself.  But what looks like a dark patch or a setback can actually be a beautiful turning point.  Hard to see it when you’re in it.  Maya always used to say, “There’s always a rainbow in the clouds”.

As Michael Bernard Beckwith said on Super Soul Sunday, “I can choose to feel love even when there’s conflict.  What happens I activate my choice muscle, expand my awareness, my life changes.”  Choice muscle…that’s a good concept.

 

When we’re faced with a difficult situation we always have the choice of two reactions…hope or despair.  When you choose hope you open your mind and heart and very naturally you begin to imagine other possibilities.  Are you facing significant life change like getting out of a bad relationship or starting a new job or trying to lose the burden of weight?  Well often we feel chaos or resistance in those moments.  What I do know for sure is that resistance will try to take you down.  So we often put off life-decisions because we don’t take the leap.  Deepak says, “Go for it now.  Hope lives in this moment and every moment.  Don’t waste another second.”

DEEPAK:

We’ve started the journey to make hope real and lasting in our lives.  The first thing to know is that hope is a quality that exists in consciousness, like love or joy.  When a situation looks hopeless we are not seeing clearly.  On its own consciousness is always life-supporting.  Every cell in the body nourishes and supports itself through the wisdom that evolved in our DNA.  Your awareness is just as life-supporting.  But if we make choices that are self-defeating or that deny reality, the mind can lose hope.  The way to heal any situation is to activate hope.  This happens here and now because hope is always a part of our present awareness.  Otherwise hope is mere wishing, which is a dream of the past or future.  Stop and think about the things you hope for at work, in relationships or from yourself.  You will find there is a spectrum of hope that runs from a casual “I hope so” to “My hope is my rock.”  A conviction born of trust and belief in yourself.

Where does such a solid foundation come from?  Your core self.  When you connect with your true-self as we do in meditation, hope develops more strength.  Then “I hope” begins to change your personal reality.  It eradicates fear of uncertainty.  As an example, consider your approach to love.  You may be waiting for the one to magically appear.  An ideal beloved who will make everything right.  You may be in a relationship where love is taken for granted or where the most loving part was at the beginning.  You may feel not enough love.

These are mild forms of hopelessness.  On the other hand a hopeful relationship to love is active and self-directed.  Instead of waiting for the one to magically appear, YOU become the one.  Instead of seeking love, you live and give the love you want by what you say and do.  In both the hopeless and hopeful relationships to love a person hopes to be loved.  Yet only in the second case is this hope active, strong and life-supporting.  At its strongest hope creates the outcome you want in any situation.  It carries the full power of intention.

CENTERING THOUGHT

The power of hope is here every day.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Samprati Hum

My true self is wide awake.

DEE:

Today hope is a strong part of who I am.  And that comes from faith in having a power greater than myself in my life, a god of my own understanding.  And that hope comes from self-awareness.  I didn’t have hope, faith, a god, nor self-awareness until I reached my bottom in my disease of alcoholism.  I just existed on the planet with no purpose, no direction and a huge void in my life.

I don’t believe it was a coincidence when I finally had the desperation to ask for help.  I couldn’t go a day, no matter how much, how long and how hard I tried, to get through a day without drinking.  And that is when my life changed and I became a sponge soaking up this new way of living.

For me a 28-day treatment program and Alcoholics Anonymous has shown me the way to Dee, to understand Dee, to accept and embrace Dee, to love Dee.  And the new Dee has hope because my god is here with and for me to guide and protect me on my journey through life.  And my purpose is to share that with you in your periods of self-doubt and self-loathing, or just in a state of confusion.  We all go there.  We all get over-whelmed.

I just want to share with you that everything is perfect at this very moment.  Stay here.  In the moment.  Love yourself for YOUR gifts.  You have many!  Don’t compare yourself to anyone.  They don’t have YOUR gifts.  And remember that you are perfect just the way you are, right here, right now, on your journey through life.  Keep going.  Enjoy the ride.  Love yourself.  And never forget that you are not on this ride alone.  There are many of us who want to share your journey, to give you hope and compassion.  Don’t deprive us of that.  Please.

Aloha, Dee

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From Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey’s 21-Day Meditation on HOPE.

The Power of Hope is Real

Day 1 – The Power of Hope Is Real

“The power of hope upon human exertion, and happiness, is wonderful.” – Abraham Lincoln

Welcome to our 21-Day Meditation Experience, Hope in Uncertain Times. We know many of you are feeling uncertainty and confusion about what is happening in the world and what that means in your life. And uncertainty isn’t just present in world events; it can also appear personally in your relationships, your career, or any number of life circumstances. This Meditation Experience will show you how, by directing your attention within, you can find a real hope at the core of your being that will give you the strength, clarity, and purpose to navigate these turbulent times.

We are happy you are joining us to learn how to find and activate this deep hope in your heart. Over the next three weeks, we will explore and experience the power and the freedom that comes with living life from a place of unshakable hope.

In today’s meditation, we learn that uncertainty is not our enemy. We can embrace uncertainty from a place of inner security and harness its creative potential. Secondly, we discover that hope is activated through self-awareness. Our journey together will reveal that hope is not only a powerful center of security and guidance in life, it is our also our true nature, our essential being.

OPRAH:

Deepak and I welcome you to a healing 21-day meditation experience.  In uncertain times many people are feeling a sense of disruption and discord in our world today.  And I know many of you are experiencing unease.  You may feel on edge or you may even feel your sense of hope faltering.

This 21-day meditation experience is created to help you move away from feeling overwhelmed to feeling a sense of strength and hope, to feeling your own strength, our united strength and hope.

Deepak and I are grateful you’re joining us.  We believe this mediation program is arriving at just the right time which is just how the Universe always works, for sure.  Deepak says, “Now more than ever hope can actually become our power source.  This meditation will teach us how to tap into that renewable resource and help us maintain it even through challenging events.”

Our first week will focus on awakening to the hope within each of us, in you, in understanding that the power of hope is not just rhetoric but it’s real.  It’s not just a wish on a wing on a prayer.  In week two we’re going to learn where hope can take you while tapping into inner strength, compassion, renewal, and living within the light that is all light.  And finally in week three we will explore how to take this sense of hope to the next level and inspire strength and promise in the people around you.

So welcome to Day 1…The Power of Hope is Real.  Hope has always been a guiding light in my life.  A light that’s never gone out.  Even in my darkest days.  As a child I lived with my grandmother on a farm in Mississippi.  We used an outhouse.  We had no running water and no electricity.  You would think a little girl in my circumstances wouldn’t have much hope for the future.  But for as far back as I can remember I always had an awareness, a connection to a positive force larger than myself.  I called it God.  And it was this internal knowing that gave me hope always, and continues to.  I do know in my heart that the positive force that is bigger than ourselves also lies within ourselves.

The goal of this meditation experience is to help you find that hope and to use it to help fuel your life forward.  No matter what you’re going through, a break-up, losing a job, a health issue, allow hope to be your guide.  Give yourself that.  Maya Angelou once wrote, “Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space.  Invite one to stay.”  Let’s listen to Deepak on how hope is real and together let’s invite the vibration of hope to stay.

DEEPAK:

We’re often told that hope is a precious commodity to call on in difficult situations.  We hope for the best when someone is sick or in trouble.  But there is a deeper understanding to hope.  Hope can be a life-supporting force that gives us more control over how each day unfolds.

Most people don’t realize hope has enormous power.  It’s not enough to hope for the best.  We need hope to deal with the uncertainty of life.  Everyone knows at some level that life is always uncertain.  We all know the saying, “Change is the only constant in life.”  From this knowledge two paths emerge.  You can fear uncertainty and try to control every detail of your life.  That is the path of fear and anxiety which leads to a life of insecurity, low expectations, and limited fulfillment.  The other path is to embrace uncertainty for its creative potential, it’s ability to make life new everyday and the wisdom hidden behind seeming chaos.  If we take this path life becomes ever expanding with greater fulfillment and security, a strong sense of self, and a steady process of awakening going forward.  In that light hope becomes very different.  Instead of being a form of wish-fulfillment it becomes an intention the Universe carries out.

The purpose of this 21-day meditation experience is to ignite the power of hope, making it a real force in your life.  Is there an aspect of your life that you hope will get better, a job that has stopped being challenging, a relationship that is less fulfilling, or simply a nagging weight problem?  Have you been hoping these areas will get better?  Everyone does.  But a passive hope is not affective.  In fact it can turn into an excuse to do nothing.

Yet for others hope already has power.  They have taken the steps that make hope realistic and optimistic.  The power of hope comes from your self-awareness.  When hope is known and felt as your inner-being, your true-self, it transforms your life.

Our journey begins today and the first step is to ask yourself how hope is working for you right now.  Are you moving steadily in the direction at fulfilling your hopes and dreams?  Together we can discover the kind of hope that supports life from the very center of our being.

Centering Thought

Hope is my source of strength.

Sanskrit Mantra

Sheevo Hum

I am pure potentiality.

DEE:

Most of my life has been lived without true hope.  I had kid hopes like wishing for a new bike or that I fit in.  It wasn’t until I was completely hopeless when I was hitting my bottom in the disease of alcoholism that “Experience, Strength and Hope” was introduced to me and started to take on new meaning.

If you’ve ever found yourself battling an addiction or an emotional or spiritual void, or even a physical struggle, you may have found yourself hoping or hopeless, or making deals with God.

I found myself there.  And praying to a God I knew nothing about to please help me not drink today, to remove this hangover, to help me remember what I did in that blackout.  This went on which seemed an eternity.  I was exhausted.  I could no longer play that game that everything was peachy when all I wanted to do and had to do was drink and hide and lie and pretend.

When I found myself in a 28-day treatment program, when I finally admitted I had a problem and couldn’t go on living the way that I was, that I need help!, then the doors opened up.  “When the student is ready, the master appears” is an affirmation I have hanging on my wall.  And it is so true.  When I finally succumbed and stopped battling my demons, I had hope.  I was gifted with a new way of life and a new mind-set.  Hey, if it doesn’t work, I’ll go back to my old ways, but for today I’ll give it a try.

I have learned so much about turning it over to a power greater than myself, a god of my own understanding.  The weight has been lifted and am finally comfortable in my own skin and have learned to like, and even love, myself for who and what I am!  And the beautiful thing is I didn’t have to do this alone; I couldn’t do this on my own.  And no one judged me; on the contrary, I was embraced with open and understanding arms with nothing asked in return.  Go figure.  This isn’t the way of the world.  Something for nothing.  Wrong!  Once I changed my mindset and outlook I have found that, indeed, it IS the way of the world.

So if you find yourself struggling with hope and self-love and purpose, know that you are not alone.  There are many of us on your side, willing to help you get through your battles and past your demons.  Suck it up and ask for help.  Do us a favor and ask us for help.  We’ve found our purpose and you are it!

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From Hope in Uncertain Times (Oprah & Deepak)

Hope in Uncertain Times

Nothing destroys hope and trust more than feeling insecure.  The opposite of insecurity is strength.  What does it mean to be strong?  Looking around we can see the strength of an authority figure like a boss who dominates others.  With or without consent they take charge and make it clear that only their will, their desires and emotions are important.  This is a sad distortion of true strength.  Society rewards this distorted strength by giving some people power and millions of others seem more than happy to give away their power to those who appear strong.  All of this comes about because we haven’t learned how to be strong inside ourselves.

In practical terms becoming strong feels like a puppy who is safe only beside its mother until its curiosity lures it into the outside world.  At first the puppy rushes back to its mother’s side when it feels unsafe.  But over time standing on its own feels natural and right.  It has no more desire to be protected by another.

The self behaves the same way.  It starts out needing protection or the illusion of protection by clinging to externals like money, status, ego strokes, the bonds of relationships, developing a fit body, etcetera.  These are good things on their own.  But they aren’t good if they reinforce the attitude of “me against the world” or “us versus them”, in other words, a defensive posture.  The secret is to experiment with standing up for yourself, speaking your truth, holding fast when you must and always taking responsibility.

When your inner strength and hope gets activated you realize there was never a “you against the world” or “us versus them”.  There was only the power of hope in your consciousness and the reality it constructs.

…Deepak Chopra

The message here is learn to love yourself, like you did when you were a child.  Nurture yourself.  Grow.  Know that you are the best you can be…today.  Your past is the past and you’ve grown immensely from your experiences.  The future is not here yet so don’t go there.  Stay in the moment and realize all of your gifts.  No comparing your gifts with those of others.  Your gifts are your gifts…unique to you…special.  Give away those gifts.  Make someone’s day.  A smile.  A hug.  An open ear.  Be yourself.  Love yourself.

…Dee Harris

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