How to Bring Your Passions and Purpose to Life
By Nicolette Stinson
Wouldn’t it be nice if, when you were born, you were given a GPS programmed with the destination: “MY PURPOSE”? Then, you would always be alerted to the exact turns to make, and know when you are on or off course to your purpose.
That sounds wonderful, considering studies have shown (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/curious/201502/what-do-scientists-know-about-finding- purpose-in-life) that having a sense of purpose makes you more resilient, supports you in reaching your life goals, and contributes to a longer, happier, and healthier life.
Well, good news! You actually were born with an internal GPS alerting you to when you are on and off course to your purpose; you just haven’t been taught how to use it. Learn how to use your internal GPS (Guided Passion System) to direct you toward your purpose and live a more abundant life.
“When the student is ready, the Master appears.” I really believe this, that from the moment we were born, or even before, that our lives have been plotted out by a Power Greater than Ourselves. There are no coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. Perfectly. It’s up to us how we want to interpret those experiences.
I didn’t always feel this way. As a matter of fact, I was the total opposite. I didn’t have a God or a Higher Power throughout most of my life. Therefore, I was the controlling factor. Just me and my brain. If I wanted it badly enough I would “think” of a way to get it.
It wasn’t until I was in my 40’s and drinking myself to death that I realized I couldn’t “think” myself out of not drinking everyday. With that drinking came a life full of negativity…lying, hiding, cheating. I had no self-worth and, definitely, no self-love. I would look at myself in the bathroom mirror with a drink in one hand and and made an “L” with the other hand which I placed over my forehead. “Loser.” That’s who and what I was. Then.
I had no purpose. I was a waste of space on the planet. I had two beautiful sons, an awesome husband, a great job, a warm home, a dog, and two cars in the garage. Yet I had no purpose, but to get that drink in me.
To make a long story short, the Master appeared. I was ready to surrender, or at least desperate enough to get some help. That’s when the miracle happened. After spending 28 days in a l treatment program, I found that I had the disease of alcoholism. I learned what alcoholism was. I was introduced to AA. I was told I could make up a Power Greater Than Myself. The rest is history.
Throughout the years of my recovery I have found that, indeed, I do have a purpose. One that was plotted out for me by my Higher Power. The student was ready. My purpose is to share my experience, strength and hope with others who are struggling and have yet to find self-worth, self-love, purpose, and, of course, sobriety.
Finding Your Passion
A passion is simply a topic or activity that:
If it ain’t fun, I ain’t doin’ it.
Comes naturally to you
If it’s too hard, it ain’t fun.
Energizes and lights you up
Every morning I wake up with an excitement to take on the day. Me and my Higher Power. I know that all will flow just the way it is supposed to. I have no expectations; therefore, no disappointments. I shall go with the flow, let my god do the driving, enjoy the ride and learn and meet what and who I should. Such an easier way to live than being in control.
Puts you in flow and makes time seem to fly by when you engage in it
It can also be akin to an obsession—something that you can’t get enough of. It’s where you go in daydreams or what sometimes keeps you awake and excited at night.
How bizarre to have a job that I love to do. One that feeds my soul. I remember my counselor, Judith, saying to me before leaving rehab and knowing I would be going back to my grocery-checker job, how it was a waste. A waste for me to be a grocery checker. I copped a resentment, being a pretty raw newcomer. I didn’t realized then that there are no coincidences.
I took an early retirement from my grocery checker job to live my passion…to do art, to create, to live from my heart and not my head. It’s taken a few years to get this business up and running and I still have so far to go. But it’s exciting. Not only am I learning something new everyday about business, I am learning something new everyday about me. Change is good.
And not only am I creating art from stained glass, I am creating art with a message. A message of hope, inspiration and motivation. Art that brings out the emotion in you to take life more simply, take yourself more lightly…and that you are perfect, a gift to the world, unique, just the way you are.
The spiritual Law of Dharma (or purpose in life) teaches that you have one thing you do, and one way of doing it—that is a particular need in the world can only be filled by your unique expression. Living your dharma all starts with strategically following your passion. Write a list of the topics and activities where you feel any of the above, and these are your passions.
How Passion Leads to Purpose
You have a built-in GPS mechanism keeping you in alignment with your purpose. Its signals are communicated in bodily sensations telling you when you are headed away from or toward your purpose. This GPS is your own personal compass. Your true passions will guide you on your purpose path by sending your body positive signals.
I get those signals. Don’t you? Deep in your gut something just ain’t right. When I get them I talk to them, those feelings. “Thanks for coming. You are not serving me. You can go now”, and I let them get whisked away into the clouds.
When you fail to honor your true passions, and start moving away from your purpose, your physical self sends out signs of discomfort such as:
Low energy or chronic fatigue
Nothing worse than using the little energy and small amount of disc space I have left in my brain for thoughts and tasks that do not serve me. I want to crawl back into bed; but better yet, let that shit go.
Feeling trapped, having a pit in your stomach, or digestive disorders
There’s that oh-oh feeling I was talking about. Embrace it. Thank it for visiting. Let it go.
Forgetfulness or inability to concentrate
I get this way when I forget to live in the moment. My head is all over the planet like I’m running on a hamster wheel and nobody’s home. Easy remedy. Get back in the moment. Get back grateful. Get back humble.
Disease, headaches, anxiety, depression, insomnia, addiction
Been there; done that. Not such an easy remedy. Just know that you are right where you need to be at this very moment, but that this, too, shall pass (even the wonderful pink-cloud moments pass). Do not carry shame, embarrassment nor guilt. We all have our demons. No that you are not unique nor alone. We can get through this together.
Pick up that 1,000 pound phone and reach out. The one who answers the phone doesn’t know who you are or can see. And when you are ready, the master appears. Remember, things happen for a reason. There are no coincidences. Know your journey is taking you to a place of greatness, contentment, freedom. One day at a time.
On the contrary, when you follow your passions, and are moving toward your purpose, you experience:
Once you are clear about which passions are leading you towards true purpose, you may feel called to start a purpose-driven passion project that benefits others.
Bringing your purpose to life requires feedback in the real world, and having a solid plan to launch your passion project is vital to the fulfillment of your purpose. Your passion project plan should:
Be built around a specific niche; or use a unique blend of your passions and skills to serve as the answer to a problem faced by a particular segment of the population.
Have a basic financial plan and structures including a personal savings plan if needed, project expenses, and sales goals.
Include specific targeted goals including the objectives of the project. How many people do you want to reach? In what amount of time? How do you want the project to affect your audience? How will you reach your audience?
Have a unique brand message and identity as represented in your online presence.
Present a specific value and voice that differentiates you from potential competitors in the market.
It’s very important to write a Mission Statement and Business Plan. I read about this early on and put it on the back burner. For the first year of my business I stayed super busy doing nothing. I wasn’t really getting anywhere because I didn’t have a plan nor did I know where I wanted to go. Doesn’t sound fun, but will give you direction and goals to achieve.
Before starting your passion project you may want to:
Ask for advice or mentorship from someone who is a step ahead of where you ultimately want to go.
There is a wealth of mentorship at your fingertips. Get on the internet and learn from other’s direction and mistakes. Helps tremendously in saving you the time of trial and error. Helps you to focus your energy in a positive direction.
Create a positive mindset and using affirmations to build confidence and let go of your fears and doubts.
My art business has grown from my passion of creating stained glass pieces to using the glass scraps and creating mosaics. Because I’m a word-nut and a big believer in affirmations, I include quotes and inspirational sayings on my mosaics. In this way I can not only bring out the emotion in you with a beautiful work of art, but I can also bring out the emotion in you with my words.
When I was in rehab we had a meeting every morning in which we came up with an affirmation which we repeated out loud to the group. My affirmation was, “I am a good person and a whole person.” I can remember deep in my gut how I felt so unworthy and damaged and purposeless that when I said this affirmation, I felt anything but good nor whole.
But this affirmation I took with me beyond my 28-days and, one day at a time, I finally feel good and whole. Not only that, as I peeled the layers of my onion away, I can start to feel good in my own skin…even love myself for who and what I am. What a gift! Affirmations work! to get you back in the moment knowing your journey is perfect for you.
Take part-time trainings to develop your passion-based skills in your spare time.
Become a volunteer to gain experience in an area you are passionate about.
Service is key in my recovery. Recovery is my everything, before my art, before my family. My everything. Being in service not only includes going to meetings and sponsoring in AA, I’ve also been given the opportunity to volunteer at our local AA office, speak at DUI classes, and have a book study in my home. But more importantly I can use my recovery, my story, my experience, strength and hope, to give anyone who enters my “bubble” a little glimpse of hope and optimism, a little bit of “you are not alone” and “you are an asset.”
Find a champion who supports your desires for finding purpose and consulting them often.
Seek to understand what you care about most, what drives you and what change you want to create in the world. Write it down, have conversations about it, and systematically test your assumptions about what gives you deep purpose.
Writing these blogs helps me tremendously in moving forward on my journey. If one person reads one thing that gives hope, even a crack of a smile, I have achieved my purpose.
When I sell my art at markets I have been gifted with the most awesome and heart-felt relationships and conversations with like-minded people who have entered my booth and my “bubble”. When I let my guard down and practice rigorous honesty, I allow the strength of those interactions achieve their highest goals, and I get to experience my highest self. This miracle has happened only because I can love myself and be comfortable in my own skin, for who and what I am.
Deeply understand how your passions and skills are valued by others.
I “feel” the feedback via words and actions of others. The responses I get on social media have been wonderful, even when I doubted myself and my postings. I “feel” the value of my art and my message when someone buys my art and from the aloha and hugs I receive from that purchase. Or “just” from a conversation or a future non-coincidental encounter. I get to feel today. I don’t have to think. I don’t have to worry. I just know that everything is perfect at this moment.
With warmest aloha, Dee Harris
For those interested in checking out my Art with a Message, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Mahalo and enjoy!
About the Author
Nicolette Stinson (/bios/nicolette-stinson)
Certified Coach, Yoga Instructor and Perfect Health Instructor
Nicolette is an online personal brand strategist for coaches and wellness professionals. She is also a Certified Coach, Chopra Center Perfect Health Instructor, and Yoga Teacher as well as an avid student of mindfulness, creativity, personal development, and spirituality. Visit http://www.nicolettestinson.com (http://www.nicolettestinson.com) to learn more. Read more (/bios/nicolette-stinson)
From The Chopra Center