Your Deepest Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 7

Your Deepest Desire

“In the desire of the One to know Himself, we exist.”― Rumi

Congratulations! Today we complete the first week of our journey together. This week we have learned about the power of our desires and how to use Nature to fulfill them. We have learned that happiness and fulfillment are our birthright, and that the most effective way to manifest our dreams is also the easiest way.

Today we discover that our deepest desire is for spiritual awakening, which is the state of fulfillment and completeness. All other desires are variations on this basic desire for actualization. Every desire is a fragment of our being that seeks awakening, completion, and wholeness.

 

CENTERING THOUGHT

My deepest desire is for completeness.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Ananda Hum
I am pure bliss.

OPRAH:
Welcome to Day 7 – Your Deepest Desire. Well, we’re already completing our first week of connecting with our dreams and how to fulfill them. I’m hoping you’re feeling the energy of attraction within you in a new way. Can you see it showing up?

We’ve begun to align with the deepest part of ourselves where we find the connective tissue between our desires and the power that’s waiting to help manifest them. We’ve seen how desiring from the level of your truest self and trusting the universe to respond to that truth, that’s how you get what you want.

It’s the most powerful path to fulfillment. Focusing, getting clear, embracing positive emotions, surrendering and moving with the current of your true-self. These are the cornerstones of manifesting the life you want.

Today Deepak brings us back to the place where our most whole, powerful intentions reside…within…that is the source of joy, the source of freedom, the source of wholeness. It’s the core from which the energy of attraction gets lit up. There we’ll take the next steps toward making our real dreams, the true ones, come into being.

DEE:
My energy of attraction is totally different today than when I was active in my disease of alcoholism. As a matter of fact, I felt anything but whole. While I sat in Group in a 28- day alcohol treatment program, the group was asked to repeat every morning an affirmation we came up for ourselves. Mine was “I am a good person. I am a whole person,” but in my mind I was neither good nor whole and I hated myself for getting into a place where I couldn’t go a day without drinking.

On my new journey in recovery and with the help of the treatment program, Alcoholics Anonymous, and learning self-care through meditation experiences such as this, I am finally in touch with my true-self. And a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I am finally feeling the joy, freedom and wholeness the Universe, Nature, God, my Higher Power has intended for me!

DEEPAK:

Congratulations for completing the first week of our meditation experience. You’ve acquired the foundation for turning intentions into reality. I’m sure there have been surprises along the way because this vision of effortlessly achieving what you want isn’t like the conventional advice given by society.

DEE:
In my sobriety I have been painstakingly trying to unlearn the conventional advice given me by society. It definitely didn’t nurture my highest good. With the help of AA’s 12 Steps and working with a trusted sponsor, I have learned how fear-based I have behaved most of my life. Because of society!

So I am unlearning that “more is better”, more money, more power, more stuff. I am unlearning to gain your approval because your approval doesn’t serve me. I am unlearning to put these superficial goals first and to take care of me, to nurture me, to love me for who and what I am. I am finally free to be myself!

DEEPAK:
You’ve learned that the world in here is connected to the world out there which means that your intentions can flow from your true self to find fulfillment in every area of life. People may spend a lot of time and energy making their desires very, very specific. But what really gives any desire its power is how strongly it’s connected to the ground of being…the true-self.

Behind every desire, however small, is the energy of attraction, which brings the outcome of desire. The energy of attraction is most powerful near the source, just as electricity is most powerful when it comes out of the generator. Therefore, your deepest desires are actually the easiest to fulfill.

No doubt this comes as a surprise since conventional wisdom holds just the opposite. Your deepest desires can come true naturally and without struggle because your deepest desires are signals from your true-self. The force of evolution in the universe supports whatever is true and promotes harmonious growth.

The desires people spend the most time chasing after, such as more money, a better job, and a bigger home, also employ the energy of attraction. But the path that follows is weaker and more indirect. Why? Because the focus is on the external goal not on consciousness.

This isn’t to judge against getting a nicer life, but when you pursue love, beauty, creativity, innovation, meaning and a higher vision of life, the energy of attraction becomes much stronger. Its strength comes from wholeness. The more whole you are, the more powerful your intentions.

It’s the same as seeing a whole picture of Niagara Falls or the Grand Canyon instead of the scattered pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. The picture is there in the scattered pieces, but it’s not whole enough to recognize.

A secret of the World’s Wisdom Traditions is that every single desire, no matter how small, is working toward one goal…to make you more complete. Only through feeling whole will you feel fulfilled. Through meditation you get in touch with the primal desire for wholeness, happiness and freedom. Let this be your personal vision. We should also embrace every smaller, more specific desire along the way.

DEE:

Getting sober has allowed me to put the pieces of “my” puzzle together and start to make sense of this journey called my life. It’s been magical. It’s been meaningful. And it’s been necessary to bring me to the place today, which is right where I am supposed to be…and it is perfect!

Today I feel complete, whole, fulfilled and content. Just like The Promises state in the AA Big Book, “You will find a new happiness and a new freedom”. I have, indeed, found these gifts, along with immense gratitude. And today I have been given a purpose and excitement to give back what was so freely given me in my despair. I “get to” share my Experience, Hope and Strength with everyone who enters my “Dee Bubble”, offering respect, mindfulness, compassion and love.

Thank you for being here for me. Know that I am here for you so please contact me anytime. Together we can get through anything and make our world a better place!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with Affirmations and Inspiration, please visit my website at http://www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Mahalo and enjoy!

DEEPAK:
As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My deepest desire is for completeness. My deepest desire is for completeness.” Now let’s prepare for our meditation.

Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes. Begin to become aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply. With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Ananda Hum.” This mantra awakens the state of fulfillment that is your true self. As you repeat the mantra feel the sense of completeness, the joy and sense of wholeness of your inner being. Repeat it silently to yourself, “Ananda Hum.” With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.”

Please continue with your meditation. I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell. “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.” Just mentally, “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.”

From The Chopra Center.

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The Power of Attention

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

 

Day 6

The Power of Attention

CENTERING THOUGHT

My attention activates my desires.

SANSKRIT MANTRA
Hum Sa
Unboundedness is my true nature.

OPRAH:

Welcome. It’s Day 6 already – The Power of Attention is what we’re talking about today. Hah, the power of attention. It’s such a perfect name for today’s meditation because attention really is your power source. Nothing in your life happens willy-nilly. You’re creating your own reality by what you choose your attention to and what you give your attention to, what you focus on, expands.

DEE:

My focus is to stay in the present moment, to be mindful of what is right in front of my nose. It’s not easy while the hamster wheel is spinning around in my head. But if I can have the hamster take just a short time-out, I can remind myself to get mindful, respectful, compassionate and caring. Then I start to get OK. From there I remember to get grateful and humble and remember I’m just along for the ride while my Higher Power takes me to where I need to go in my life.

OPRAH:

How often have you heard others say or you even thought to yourself, “I’m just trying to make it through this day.” It’s no surprise that if that is your attitude the energy that you bring to the day, that’s exactly what happens. You barely just make it through the day, rather than fully flourish.

What we dwell on and focus on is what we receive. So if you want more in your life, more connection, more meaning, more fulfillment, you have to learn to shift your attention, your power source to something deeper and truer. And from that pure and sacred place you can attract more abundance and goodness into your life. It’s bigger than any dream that you’ve ever imagined for yourself.

DEE:

This is so true, and I’m not too keen on believing in what isn’t tangible. But it works. I’ve tried it. So if I turn my will and my life over to the care of a god of my own understanding, and that includes my to-do list, I listen to my gut and then I do the footwork of what feel right at that moment.

I tend to not be so stressed out because I’m not in control. But what needs to get done, gets done! And when I’m able to just go with the flow, my life flows more fluidly without the rapids. Go figure. Can’t explain it, except for this newfound freedom must be attracting more of the same.

OPRAH:

So let’s focus our attention on Deepak’s wisdom in today’s meditation and watch and see what shows up.

DEEPAK:

If you want a dream to come true, it takes more than dreaming. The mind needs to focus in a special way, using the power of intention. Electric current in a house can be strong or weak and the same holds true for our intentions. Whenever there’s a problem with your electricity, it can exist anywhere along the line, beginning at the power station. In the case of having an intention that comes true, the power source is attention.

 

DEE:

When I feel my mind, body or spirit is having a problem with my “electric current” I immediately see if I’m in H.A.L.T. (hungry, angry, lonely or tired). Usually I am and I tend to it quickly. Self-care is key for me that has never been my priority before getting sober. Today I am grateful to not have to pick up a drink and to have learned how to not only care for myself, but to love myself. I never did or had this when I was active in my disease.

DEEPAK:

What you pay attention to will grow. And if your attention is focused from the level of the true-self, it can attract anything and everything to you. In a word, attention activates the energy of attraction. Every wish or desire is like a tiny seed which contains the blueprint for the tree that manifests from the seed.

The seed of desire, which is also the seed of every intention, needs nourishment to grow. If you want a desire to manifest, here are some important ways to put the right attention on it.
•Have a clear intention. Don’t muddy it with compromises and excuses for why it won’t come true.

•Have positive emotions around your desire. Feel how good it will be to fulfill it. Believe that what you want is beneficial for you, without any negative consequences to those around you.
•Be prepared for any response the universe brings and be flexible about how you go from there. Feel confident that hidden forces will come to your aid once your desire is released to the universe.

DEE:
Having the faith that my Higher Power, God, the Universe, or whatever you want to call it, makes all the difference in the world. If I have an intention and my Higher Power believes that I am ready for it to come to fruition, then it does. If it doesn’t, I don’t pout or cop a resentment because I know that I am not ready for it at this time in my life.

There are no coincidences. Everything in my life has happened and is happening for a reason…and that reason is for my highest good. If the student isn’t ready, then the Master doesn’t appear. Period. Move on, Dee.

And if I choose to live an optimistic and positive life with that kind of attitude, that is what I reap. More of the same. My glass is always half-full, no matter how tragic the circumstances around me. Again, I am not in control of people, places or things. I have to learn to go with the flow…which is life…and know I’m doing my best.

DEEPAK:

Being able to use your attention in this way depends most of all on your state of consciousness. Desires that originate in the true-self easily reach fulfillment. Desires that arise in an agitated, worried, confused mind will struggle to be fulfilled.

In meditation you expand and deepen your awareness. The more this happens the less effort is required to have successful intentions. When we allow our intentions to flow from the silence that is the basis of the mind, the energy of attraction automatically obeys what the mind desires.

DEE:

Such a great gift…sobriety! Again, no coincidences my journey from living in the depths of hell in my disease to the place I am today. Not only was I able to learn about the disease of alcoholism in rehab, I got to learn who and what I am by working the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Wow! It all makes so much sense now. It’s so much easier now, just surrendering everything and being the real me having learned who I am by working the Steps. I no longer have to live in fear of your thoughts of me. I can be comfortable in my own skin. I can love myself. And I can share my Experience, Strength and Hope with all who enter my Dee Bubble. How magical is that? because I know if I don’t give it away, I can’t keep it (I tried and found myself in that deep, dark place once again).

Thank you for allowing me to share my passion, my optimism and hope. And please leave a feedback if you wish. I love sharing our stories!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those looking for Inspirational Art with a Message of Hope and Optimism, please visit my website at http://www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Mahalo and enjoy!

DEEPAK:

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My attention activates my desires. My attention activates my desires.” Now let’s prepare for our meditation. Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.

Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply. With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Hum Sa.” This mantra activates the transformative attention of pure awareness. As you repeat the mantra feel the awakening of your powerful attention. Repeat it silently to yourself, “Hum Sa.” With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises, or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.” Please continue with your meditation. I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell. “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.” Just mentally, “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.”

The Chopra Center

The Fulfillment of Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 5

The Fulfillment of Desire

“Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.”― Erich Fromm

Today’s meditation addresses our sense of self-worth and its impact on fulfilling our desires. Your true self – your core consciousness, is divine. You are pure light, love, joy, and fulfillment. You deserve happiness and the fulfillment of your desires, because happiness and fulfillment are your essential nature.

In today’s meditation, we will experience our inner selves and know our true worth. As our experience of our real self becomes stronger, so does our awareness that we are deserving of all that is good. You don’t have to do anything to be deserving – you already are deserving.

CENTERING THOUGHT

I deserve complete fulfillment.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Shreem Kleem Namah
I attract abundance from my true self.

OPRAH:

Welcome to Day 5 – The Fulfillment of Desire.  Worthiness is your birthright.  That’s what I’m here to tell you.  I’m here to let you know, for sure, that you are enough.  You are whole and complete simply because you were born.

When it comes to manifesting the lives we now most desire we attract the strongest support from the universe, when we start from a place of filling fulfilled and abundant, not from a place of lack.  Think for a moment about how the energy of attraction works.  Like attracts like.  That is the law.  So the energy of deficiency brings you more deficiency.

As you embrace and connect with your wholeness, your true self, you align with the most powerful energy in the universe, that which is the source of all things.  I’m calling it source energy which is ready and waiting to flow with you, to help you, support you, in all that you desire.

As Deepak leads us into our meditation today, open your heart to the truth that you are complete.  You are one-hundred percent complete just as you are.  In that knowingness you can attract all that you are complete true-self desires.  Deepak is going to show us how fulfillment is the exquisite basis of our very existence and then we’ll meditate.

DEE:

You know, before I got sober I felt so empty, void of anything that gave me happiness or purpose, and, for sure, I had no self-worth.  As a matter of fact I would look at myself in the mirror at place at “L” over my forehead and call myself “looser”.  I was in a pretty pathetic place.

I know now that that was the journey I was meant to take to bring me to where I am today.  I would so not appreciate my life today, nor myself, had I not trudged that road.  And I know now that it was by the Grace of God (my Higher Power of My Own Understanding that was introduced to me in an alcohol treatment program and later in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous) that I was chosen to carry a message of Experience, Strength and Hope with whoever enters my Dee Bubble.

DEEPAK:

We have a desire because we feel a lack.  Just as hunger makes you eat when your stomach is empty.  There is a sense of need behind every desire.  Need is double-edged.  If it’s part of growing, expanding, and evolving, need is good.  Everyone benefits from the need to explore who they are, to find more love, to reach for the highest.

But the other side of need is feeling that you yourself are not enough.  You need more things, more money, more food, more distractions, because otherwise you feel empty.  The energy of attraction will be weak if this is your motivation.  After all, how could a person with a bad self-image harness power?

At the level of your true-self you already feel complete.  You are whole.  The only thing the true-self wants is to see you whole, also, which involves growth, expansion and evolution.  Just being yourself you direct the energy of attraction where it needs to go.  There’s no need for massive will-power.  Because fulfillment is our true nature, our birthright, the energy of attraction is working for us in a positive direction.  That is it’s natural tendency.

DEE:

As I started to work the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with a trusted sponsor, I came to realize how fear-based I had lived most of my life.  In looking back over the decades I can see how living in a society that promotes more power, money, good looks, and things doesn’t do any of us any service.  It just makes us all feel less than

So I never felt good enough which led me to becoming an over-achiever.  I had to have your approval because I didn’t feel good about myself.  I put your thoughts over myself and over the needs of my family.  I was so insecure.  Thus, with such a bad self-image I kept reaping what I sowed…more negativity in the depths of my alcoholism.

When I completed working the 12 Steps with my sponsor I was so excited about the changes that were happening in my life…and in me!  It all started to make sense as I learned what made me tick.  A weight has been lifted from my shoulders all due to being sober and learning to live a spiritual life.

Today I live from my heart and not my head.  I no longer have to react.  I no longer have to be in control as I have a Higher Power that protects and guides me.  He teaches me what I need to learn and introduces me to who I need to meet.  There are no coincidences.  This is His journey for me to grow and become a better human being.

I can be mindful and respectful of you and your opinions.  We are all equal here on this earth; no one is any better or worse than the next.  I have not walked in your shoes, nor you in mine, so I can offer you compassion and genuine caring.

I have been gifted the ability to live in the moment and to have faith that everything is perfect at this moment.  And with that I can remain grateful and humble as I have not done this on my own.  My Higher Power is in control and has awarded me a wealth of like-minded people who walk the same path as me.  We support each other; we nurture each other.

DEEPAK:

But we make the decisions.  Our personal choices defines what gets attracted to us.  If you feel unworthy or guilty about desiring good things for ourselves, it means we do not know our true-self.

Once set in motion a desire brings more than one isolated result.  All desires are woven together in our lives.  A new car, a new love interest, a new faith each speaks to how we see ourselves.  The self we identify with.  And that is always changing.  When we desire with conscious awareness we are connecting to what the true-self wants for us.  In a word, the next thing you want is the best thing for you.

DEE:

So today I feel comfortable in my own skin.  I love myself for who and what I am.  I strive to give what was so freely given me when I needed it most.  I am thankful when I go to bed that I did the best I could and that’s good enough.  I am excited when I wake up to new experiences and new growth.

Living with the viewpoint that the glass is half-full has given me such a contentment and fulfillment that I never knew I lacked.  The relationships in my life grow stronger everyday because I can just be myself and I can be rigorously honest without the fear of what anyone thinks of me.  I have done my best.

We are all deserving, worthy and whole.  Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.  Do your best to unlearn what society has pounded into our souls since birth.  Be true to yourself and let your inner child out and run free!  And know you are never alone on your journey.  Don’t deprive us of helping you out and don’t deprive us of the gift that you are!

Thank you for being here.  I encourage feedback.  No judgements, just the respect you deserve.  With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Self-Worth and Self-Love, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

DEEPAK:

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “I deserve complete fulfillment.  I deserve complete fulfillment.”  Now let’s prepare for our meditation.  Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.  Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply.  With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Shreem Kleem Namah.”  This mantra affirms that you deserve the fulfillment of all your deepest desires.  As you repeat the mantra feel that you’re drawing divine abundance into your life by being deserving, worthy, and whole.  Repeat it silently to yourself, “Shreem Kleem Namah.”  With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.”  Please continue with your meditation.

I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end, you’ll here me ring a soft bell.  “Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.”  Just mentally, “Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.  Shreem Kleem Namah.”

From the Chopra Center.

Effortless Creation

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 4

Effortless Creation

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” ― Maya Angelou

Usually, when we want to manifest a cherished wish or desire in our lives, our first instinct is to act on that impulse. Action of course is necessary, but today we will learn to start with a different approach. To harness Nature’s infinite creative power, we need to release desire into the stillness of our Being. In today’s meditation we will learn to let go of our intention, where it then settles into the field of pure potentiality where all the laws of creation are ready to help manifest it.

This is the most effective way to manifest desires, and the simplest and easiest way to bring your hopes and dreams to life. That doesn’t mean action and persistence aren’t also essential. They are, but they too come in after letting the seed of intention rest into the silence of your true self. This ensures that your actions and focus will be supported and aligned with Nature’s intelligence, not separate from it.

DEE:

OK.  I’m such a novice at this meditation thing.  Harnessing Nature’s infinite creative power.  Still of our Being.  Intentions.  Pure Potentiality.  Way above my head…  So how I’m going to try to fake it ’til I make it, to allow this all to unfold, is to put this all in my God Box.

I have turned my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand God.  This is my Higher Power of my own understanding who is in control and allows me to come along for the ride, learning, growing, prospering, and experiencing what He sees fit.

My God has also taught me to stop thinking so much, to go with the flow and live from my heart.  As an intellect for most of my life, this was a bit difficult.  But once I tried it, I found it worked and I felt a weight lifted from my shoulders.

So when I “feel” in my gut what my God urges me to do, I do.  I have to do the footwork.  That is why I am writing this blog right this minute.  I “felt” a calling.  For this intellect I can’t explain why this is all working for me today, but it does.  Therefore, I’m a believer to just go with the flow and reap the rewards for doing so.

CENTERING THOUGHT

My desires are fulfilled from my true self.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Ahrah Kahrah
My desires have the power to manifest.

OPRAH:

Welcome to Day 4 – Effortless Creation.  Ah, I think you’re gonna love this one.  ‘Cause we all know that wonderful feeling when we’re in sync with the energy of the universe.  That joyful, energizing space where things just seem to come to you effortlessly, flowing, in complete alignment with everything that is.

Now, it’s so easy to slip out of sync with that energy of the universe.  And when we do life becomes a struggle.  You feel more depleted than invigorated.  And you can lose your way.

DEE:

When I am out of sync I am back in the “Dee has taken over control” mode.  I quickly realize that I need to get back right-sized, get grateful, and get humble.  I have not gotten to where I am in this peace and contentment because I willed it.  So I immediately get back in the present moment which brings me back to my Higher Power.  I breathe.  I pay attention.  I am back in sync.

OPRAH:

When we express our deepest desires, set our intentions, do our best and then let it go…surrender…you immediately can get closer to fulfilling your dreams.  We become magnets for goodness to come to us.  We create openness for our deepest desires to manifest, and find ourselves once again.

DEE:

Surrendering and allowing my God to drive me around on His magic carpet ride of life has shown me dreams beyond my wildest expectations.  I am grateful and that emanates from me.  That attracts more goodness.  What we reap is what we sow.

OPRAH:

In today’s meditation Deepak is going to guide us on how to tap into the truth of ourselves, allowing effortless creation to unfold.  Together let us hold the intention of what we most desire, then detach or surrender the outcome, allowing the energy of attraction to flow freely through us with grace and ease.  And from that place we’ll meditate.

DEEPAK:

Struggling to get what you want isn’t what nature intends.  When you let good things be attracted to you, manifestation is easy and enjoyable.  The secret lies in having a desire and letting go.  This is the state of detachment.

Unfortunately, most people try to get what they want by being the opposite of detached.  They have cravings, addictions, obsessions and fixations.  They dwell on what they want over and over again.  This brings up what seems like a contradiction.  

DEE:

OK.  This was me.  As an alcoholic in recovery, the above paragraph describes me to a T.  I want it and I want it now.  Instant gratification.  All about me.  I’m in control.  Don’t care who I step on to get it.  I’ll lie.  I’ll cheat.  I’ll stab you in the back.  My cravings, addictions, obsessions and fixations were who I was and why I lived.  I was exhausted, lost and living in a dark place.

Today I am so blessed, so grateful, that I was chosen to be sober and not dead.  I have purpose today that I get to carry my message of Experience, Strength and Hope.  I am alive and excited!

DEEPAK:

You do need passion to achieve your aspirations.  You need action and often hard work to arrive at the goal.  But if you desire from the level of the true self, these things bring you a kind of effortless joy.  You can stand aside and watch the whole process unfold.

Detachment isn’t the same as indifference.  When you let go you aren’t saying, “I don’t care what happens.”  You say, “I’m open to whatever happens and when it comes I will know the next step to take”.

DEE:

Detachment for me is getting out of the way and allowing what is supposed to happen unfold.  There are no coincidences.  Everything happens for a reason.  I have to embrace that, allow it to happen, learn and grow…and not react.

DEEPAK:

The art of desire can be found in the single verse of the Bhagwad Gita, “Perform action without regard for the fruits of action”.  This is detachment and joy in one.  Because whatever happens you will always be centered in your true self.

DEE:

Go with the flow and know that everything is happening perfectly!

DEEPAK:

Having your desire at the level of the true self and then releasing it is the key.  Being centered in your true self you experience a quiet, relaxed state of confidence.  The ability to manifest what you desire allows you to let go so that your intention can enter the field of pure potentiality. From there the energy of attraction naturally flows with ease and harmony.

Manifestation isn’t the same as wishful thinking.  Action is still required to manifest the life we want but we don’t need to lose our silent center in the process.  The silent center guides us into the things we need to do, weeding out the unnecessary busy work and struggle.

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My desires are fulfilled from my true self.  My desires are fulfilled from my true self.”  Now let’s prepare for our meditation.  

DEE:

It’s so awesome to finally experience my true self.  Everything unfolded just the way it was meant to unfold.  I’m an addict/alcoholic.  I lived a dark, selfish and meaningless life.  I bottomed out.  I surrendered.  

I got to learn about my disease and, more importantly, about me from Alcoholics Anonymous and working their 12 Steps.  AA has given me a toolbox for living that is so right on with spirituality and meditation.  I love watching myself and my life unfold…if I just stay out of the way.

Thank you for being here.  I encourage feedback.  We are never alone and have gifts to share with the world.  Let’s do it and make the world a better place.

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in my Artwork with a Message of Spirituality, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

 

DEEPAK:

Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.  Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe slowly and deeply.  With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Ahrah Kahrah.”  This mantra awakens the energy of creativity, transformation and materialization.  As you repeat the mantra feel the activation of the forces of creation and manifestation inside you.  Repeat it silently to yourself, “Ahrah Kahrah”.  With each repetition feel your mind, body and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Ahrah Kahrah.  Ahrah Kahrah.  Ahrah Kahrah.”  Please continue with your meditation.  I’ll mind the time.  And when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell.  “Ahrah Kahrah.  Ahrah Kahrah.  Ahrah Kahrah.”   Just mentally, “Ahrah Kahrah.  Ahrah Kahrah.” 

From The Chopra Center

The Source and Goal of Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 3

The Source and Goal of Desire

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ― George Bernard Shaw

Your true self is not only the beginning of desire, it is also the end, or fulfillment, of desire. This infinite potential, energy, and intelligence of unbounded consciousness is the real energy of attraction. Today we will discover that we don’t need to do anything, or go anywhere to access the energy of attraction. It is our own true self.

In today’s meditation, we will awaken this energy of attraction within, and harness its power to bring our desires to fulfillment. This activation of desire at its source sets the direction for our thoughts and actions to lead it toward its actualization. Attaining the goal of our desires brings an inner fulfillment and contentment that returns us again to our silent source of awareness.

CENTERING THOUGHT

My true self contains every possibility.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Ananta Swa Bhava
My Being is without beginning or end.

Oprah:

Welcome to Day 3 – The Source and Goal of Desire.  The energy of attraction comes from your authentic self, that part of you that longs for more than just possessions or temporary pleasures.  How can you tell whether what you really, really want, what your craving, is flowing from your true self?  Well, you’ll know you’ve hit your sweet spot when your desires are more about being than doing or getting.  When you allow your soul, your inner purpose, to be your guide, you put your life on a new trajectory.

One of the most powerful ideas I’ve ever heard came from Gary Zukoff, In the Seat of the Soul.  He says, “When the personality comes to serve the energy of the soul, that is authentic power.”  That definition of power changed everything for me.  What it really means is finding a way to use your personality to serve what your soul actually came here to do.

DEE:

It wasn’t until I was 43 years old was I gifted the opportunity to find myself…to find my purpose.  It wasn’t until then that my journey and all the events during the first four decades of my life started to piece together like the pieces of a puzzle…and started to make sense.

When I was 43 years old I found myself in a very dark place.  I was in the worst of my alcoholic disease.  I was hitting my bottom and, although, taking my own life hardly ever crossed my mind, I was doing that on a daily basis.  You see, I was a daily drinker.  I was a functioning closet-drinker and black-out drinker.  I was a drinker who tried numerous times and in so many ways to go a day without having to take a drink.

My will power, my intellect, my college degree, my 4.0 GPA could not help me with this one.  I was baffled.  How could this happen?  How could I get so out of control?  I had the family (husband, two kids and a dog), our own home, two cars and a job.  Would I not stop drinking for them and these gifts?  No!  They were all getting in the way of my drinking.  Life was getting in my way of my drinking.  That’s all that mattered to me at that time.  That’s all I could think about!

So on that “special” day in a black-out, passed out, not coming to when the kids came home from school like so many, many times before, I didn’t come to.  I didn’t get off the couch and ready myself for my swing shift.  The red light on the answering machine was blinking.  Messages of worry and concern were left on the phone machine for being a “no call/no show” at work.

Had I talked to my work in my black-out?  I had to fish for answers.  I hated fishing.  I hated myself.  I hated the way I felt and what I had become.  I got no answers from my family so I had to call my boss the next day and FINALLY ask for help, FINALLY get rigorously honest.  FINALLY!  Thank you, God.

And thus began a whole new life for me.  In the 28-day alcohol treatment program I learned about the disease of alcoholism.  It made so much sense now why I could not stop drinking via self-control and self-will.  I absorbed all this exciting new information like a sponge.  And I was so relieved to know I wasn’t alone and I could finally have some hope.  And then I found I had a purpose and was finally able to use my personality to serve what my should actually came here to do.

Oprah:

If you want to live with the greatest purpose, passion and contentment, your desires have to line up with who your true self really is…your soul self.  When you are connected to that energy that is when you are unstoppable.  It is the energy that works together with you to co-create the life you want.

You already have everything you need to begin manifesting the life you want.  It all begins and ends with you lining up with the source of all things.  So join Deepak now in connecting and reconnecting with that sense of awareness.

Deepak:

The energy of attraction is part of who you are.  But which part?  The answer lies deep in your awareness where your true self lies.  Your true self is more powerful than any aspect of who you are because it links a desire with the ability to manifest the desire.

We’ve all experienced the difference between a shallow and a deep desire.  Wanting to catch the latest hit movie isn’t the same as wanting to be a good person.  Wanting a better car isn’t the same as wanting to find lasting happiness.

The secret of the true self is that the deeper your desire the easier it is to manifest it.  This is because the entire circle of desire is inside you.  The dream begins in the same place where the dream comes true.  When your desire is frustrated, the circle is broken.  This can happen for many reasons from bad timing and wishful thinking to hardships and obstacles in your current circumstances.

DEE:

When I left rehab I did what was suggested…go to AA meetings.  In the AA meetings I did what was suggested.  Keep going to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, and be of service.  And thus began a whole new spiritual life for me!

I am so grateful for Alcoholics Anonymous (please note that I do not represent AA but am a true believer that it works…for me).  Having no religious background AA showed me the way to a Power Greater Than Myself, of my own understanding.  AA also showed me that I don’t have to do this alone; that there are many like-minded people in the program who are ready and willing to help me succeed in getting and staying sober and ask nothing in return.

But working the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous is where the miracles really started to happen.  This is where I got to know me and learn what makes me tick.  This is where I finally get to be comfortable in my own skin and learn to love myself for the gift that I am.  This is where I get to pay it forward.

And now with the aid of meetings, self-care, yoga and meditation my journey becomes more enriched.  And I “get to” be on this journey without substance, obstacles, nor hardships, with a feeling of self-love and self-worth.

Deepak:

By meditating you draw closer to your true self.  And when you fully identify with it you will fully experience the circle of desire.  It will eliminate obstacles effortlessly.  Yet even taking the first steps toward your true self will increase the energy of attraction in your life.

Every other means of fulfilling desire is more difficult because you find yourself running out into the world, struggling to make things happen, as you chase after the goal because it is separate from you.  At the level of the true self no outcome is separate from you.  You are the source and the goal in one.

DEE:

Today I don’t have to run out in the real world for anything.  There are no struggles nor goals to chase.  Today I know that everything is perfect at this very moment if I just get out of the way.  I have no control over people, places, nor things.  But I have a Higher Power who does.

And if I turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand Him, then I have protection and guidance to learn and experience just what I need (not what I think I want).  I do my best with mindfulness and respect.  I am not perfect but can feel good about the person I’m becoming.  

Deepak:

Realize that the energy of attraction is intelligent.  It’s different from other kinds of energy, like electricity or magnetism.  The energy of attraction organizes the whole path from desire to fulfillment.  Just as nature fills a seed with everything it needs to grow, your true self fills your desires with what they need to manifest.

In the Bhagwad Gita Lord Krishna says, “Curving back onto my own nature, I create again and again.”  This is an expression of how desire remains in the self even when outer realities involved in bringing you what you want.

DEE:

I love how more and more of the onion skin continues to shed each day making me more aware of who my true self really is.  Thank you for being here and for sharing this journey with me.  I urge you to leave feedback, if you wish.

With warmest aloha,

   Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Inspiration and Enlightenment, please visit my shop at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

Deepak:

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My true self contains every possibility.  My true self contains every possibility.”

Now let’s prepare for our meditation.  Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.  Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply.  With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Ananta Swa Bhava”.  This mantra awakens your truth to the infinite potentiality of your higher self.  As you repeat the mantra know and feel the unbounded possibilities you hold within your own consciousness.  Repeat it silently to yourself.   “Ananta Swa Bhava”.  With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations, simply return yourself to silently repeating the mantra, “Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava”.

Please continue with your meditation.  I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell.  “Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava.”  Just mentally, “Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava.  Ananta Swa Bhava.”

From Chopra Center Meditation.

8 Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back from Success 

8 Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back from Success 

By Nicolette Stinson

You have infinite potential but sometimes your results don’t reflect that potential. Deeply ingrained unconscious beliefs (feelings of certainty about what something means) are influencing these results in ways you cannot see. When you have a deep belief, even unconsciously, it can sabotage your potential through the actions or non- actions you take based on the belief. That then creates the less-than-desirable results that hold you back from real success. 

Dee:

Why is it that in this society we learn early in childhood “More”, “More is better”, “More money”, “More Power”?  And we learn that it’s okay to do whatever has to be done to get “More”.  “Stab him in the back”, “Lie”, “Cheat”, “Do whatever it takes.”  Then we’ll be successful and reap the rewards for doing so.

Shit on ‘em, all of them, for teaching us that.  Now I have to unlearn all that bullshit that I’ve been carrying around most of my life.

But because of who you truly are—and your infinite potential—you can learn to move through all that hinders you from living your dharma. In fact, such obstacles can actually be used as opportunities for further expansion. 

Dee:

I’m so glad this old dog CAN learn new tricks and I’ve come to the realization that what does not serve my highest good must be discarded. 

What follows are eight common limiting beliefs (https://chopra.com/articles/create-the-next-chapter-of-your-lifes-story) that hold you back from creating success and true fulfillment at work and in life.
New empowering beliefs to replace your old limiting beliefs.  New habits to instill your new empowering belief.   Inspirational quotes from Deepak Chopra to help support your new belief and habit. 

Limiting Belief 1: I Am Not Unique 

You may say that you don’t have anything different to offer from others who have the same title or credentials, or who work in the same industry. You don’t believe that you are unique and don’t know how you can stand out from the crowd. This belief can kill your confidence and your ability to believe in your unique gifts and excel. Don’t let it hold you back! The reality is, it’s ENTIRELY untrue! You are unique from every other person on this planet in immeasurable ways and you have the ability to change or affect someone else’s life like no one else can. 

Dee:

OK, I’ve gotta admit that one thing I learned early on while in a recovery program for alcoholism is that I am not unique.  My addiction and inability to fight it on my own was not a unique problem.  With that I found comfort in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous where like-minded people shared their experience, strength and hope with me, loved me until I could love myself, and wanted nothing in return.  This fellowship and its principles have served me well in my recovery.  Today, in sobriety, I have a life second to none that I could have never even imagined.

However, while I share my experience, strength and hope with those who enter my “Dee Bubble” today, I do emphasize that we are INDEED unique…that we all have unique gifts and attributes that no one else on the planet has.  This belief helped me so tremendously when I had no purpose, no self-respect, no self-worth.  Why would I even bother trying to go on?  I have nothing to offer.  I’m a loser, a waste of space on the planet.  

It was the journey through this deep low that has brought me to the light of a meaningful life today!  Today I get to share my journey and offer hope and inspiration to those who find themselves in their own deep place.  Today I have a purpose!

New Empowering Belief: There is no one else who has my exact experience and knowledge and who can serve in the way that only I can.

Dee:

In my recovery I have been given the opportunity to create my own Higher Power over to whom I can turn my will and my life.  This Higher Power has a purpose for me and has guided me to share my story with others.  And when I had a relapse He didn’t give up on me and got me back right-sized, humble and grateful.  I cannot take any part of my journey for granted.  I am here for a reason!


New Empowering Habit: Write a list of your interests, passions (https://chopra.com/articles/how-to-bring- your-passions-and-purpose-to-life), skills, knowledge, experience, and desires. Each day, read this list and decide one thing you can do that day that uses a facet of yourself to help someone you know or come across. 

Inspiration: “Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.”— Deepak Chopra 

Limiting Belief 2: I Don’t Know What I Want 

You may be able to describe what you don’t want in your life, but when asked what you do want, you become unsure. Staying confused or being overwhelmed and complaining about what is not working can be comfortable because it has the pay-off of not having to take decisive action or responsibility and take what feels like a risk. But repeating this story will quickly put the brakes on your success. 

Dee:

I guess I was lucky to have bottomed out in my alcoholism.  Finding recovery and living a life in sobriety made it so apparent what I am on this planet to do.  And through meetings and fellowship, volunteering to speak at DUI Classes is just a small way for me to give thanks.

My Higher Power has also given me a creative passion, and with that I create stained glass and mosaic pieces of art that emphasize well-being, self-love, positivity and inspiration.  Through the Promises of AA I no longer have to fear finances, future, opinions, anything because I have found that if I remember who is running the show (not me) and have faith that all is perfect at this moment, I receive gifts I never even thought of!

New Empowering Belief: I have a clear vision for my future and the completion of the steadfast actions I take toward my vision is the best measure of my success.

Dee:

And all I have to do is just my best, give back what was so freely given me when I needed it most, and be rigorously honest!
New Empowering Habit: Research (https://www.naifa.org/news-publications/yat-chat/february- 2016/the-power-of-visualization) shows that keeping visual reminders of your personal goals will help you achieve your results. Create a clear vision for what you are creating as well as a vision board (https://chopra.com/articles/vision-board-101-how-to-use-this-manifestation-tool) and reflect on it daily. 

Dee:

The Secret is an awesome book to help visualize and keep you in focus and on track!

Inspiration: “The more boundless your vision, the more real you are.”—Deepak Chopra 

Limiting Belief 3: I Don’t Have Time 

This belief can sound like “I don’t have time for <insert self-care habit such as exercise, meditation, or hiking>,” “If I take time off I will fall behind,” or “I must respond to every request right away.” These are all a conversation about lack of time and putting off the things that you “should” do for yourself for another time. 

Dee:

As an alcoholic (in recovery) I can rationalize anything!  Procrastination is definitely a rock I need to drop from my life.  I am learning more each day how important self-care is.  I used to always put everyone’s needs before my own.  But that way of living no longer serves me.  I can give you the best “me” if I am at my peak.  A bit of meditation, exercise, yoga, good eats all help me to perform my best and I find that my list of “to do’s” gets done more quickly and in a more positive way.  And, yes, this is easier said that done.  We are works in progress!

P.S.  I set the alarm for 5AM and went to work out at the gym this morning because “I must”.  I must just talking about it, thinking about it, dwelling on it, and just damn “do it”.  I’m feeling pretty good!

The key is to turn your “shoulds (https://chopra.com/article/stop-should-ing-yourself)” into “musts.” Investing time in meditation (https://chopra.com/meditation) and self-care allows you to tap into the infinite field of creativity—the place where insight and inspiration lives. Without accessing this space you risk the potential of perpetuating problems, serious burnout, or disease. 

Dee:

I learned early on in sobriety to stay out of HALT…hungry, angry, lonely, tired.  When I get all crazy in my head it’s usually because I am in HALT and have failed to care for myself properly.  Today I practice nipping HALT in the bud before I ever get there.

New Empowering Belief: Everyone has the same amount of time in the day and I allow infinite intelligence to work when I am connected to the present moment.

Dee:

Staying in the present moment, or bringing myself back there, always puts me back in touch with my Higher Power, reminds me that I am not in control, and emphasizes the humility and gratitude I have in my life.  This moment is perfect.  This life is perfect.  I am perfect.

New Empowering Habit: Start by tracking where you spend your time. This will help you to better prioritize and schedule your activities accordingly. Begin each day with a plan for what you want to accomplish personally and professionally and schedule in non-negotiable time for self-care. 

Dee:

First thing when I wake up I remind myself that my Higher Power is in control and that I am along for the ride to learn and grow and get done what He sees fit for me.  That doesn’t mean I just sit around waiting, but I listen to my gut as to what directions to take.  And then I just do my best.

Inspiration: “If you change your relationship with time, you will change your life. The most important time of your life is right now.”—Deepak Chopra 

Dee:

Right now is all we have!

Limiting Belief 4: Inevitable Change Will Make My Skills and Knowledge Obsolete 

It’s no secret that this is a fast-paced world where new knowledge or skills can quickly become outdated or even obsolete. For some this can feel disheartening, like the invested time in gaining that knowledge or skill was wasted. The key, however, is to be enthusiastic about the potential these changes have to make things better for you and the world at large. Staying engaged, eager, and enthusiastic about new possibilities and change allows you to apply your knowledge and skills in unique ways that people without that prior experience would not be able to see. 

Dee:

Please do your best to live your passion!  The rest will fall into place.  Gaining new skills and improving your knowledge will be exciting and not a dreaded task.  And as you stay enthusiastic about your growth and learning, you will find yourself at a new level of being in every way!

New Empowering Belief: Change (https://chopra.com/articles/3-techniques-to-help-you-embrace- change) allows myself and the world to evolve in positive ways and my enthusiasm about it brings new opportunities I would never have had otherwise.
New Empowering Habit: Subscribe to blogs and newsletters of leaders in your field or industry and be on the lookout daily for changes or potential changes. Reflect on what excites you personally about these changes and how you can stay ahead of them through training or new experiences. 

Inspiration: “There are many aspects to success; material wealth is only one component. . . But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, and peace of mind.”—Deepak Chopra (https://chopra.com/free-programs/discover-your-purpose-toolkit_ga=2.57344367.498719510.1525121461- 557740326.1524243263)

Dee:

When I got rid of the notion that prosperity in my business was money, everything changed.  I was able to cherish the new bonds made with people interested in my wares and interested in me.  I looked at people not as dollar signs but as channels of growth for me.  I started to give others the mindfulness, respect and compassion they deserve…we ALL deserve.  And the money comes when my Higher Power sees fit.  I am not starving.  My needs are met.

Limiting Belief 5: Everyone Else Has It Figured Out Except for Me 

With social media being such a huge part of life, comparison (https://chopra.com/articles/stop-comparing- yourself-to-others-tips-and-tools) is more rampant than ever before. Ideal lifestyles that can never be lived up to —and which don’t actually exist—are broadcast daily. It’s almost impossible to avoid and easy to start believing that everyone else’s life around you is working out for them perfectly and something is wrong with you. But it’s not true! Focusing on other people’s highlight reels and comparing them to your own experiences—especially when you feel confused or lost—will instantly put you into a downward spiral. The moment you start looking outward at everyone else is the moment it’s time to begin looking inward and owning what is true for you. 

Dee:

I don’t post my shit on social media.  Do you?  So mainly what we see there is “the good stuff”.  It’s so easy to compare our lives with others’, but we haven’t walked in their shoes; we don’t know their whole story.  I bet they have other things going on in their lives other than “the good stuff”.

I’ve found that if I am doing my very best, and that by no means implies that I am perfect, then I am dang proud of myself, and thankful, at the end of the day.  If I’ve given one person a glimpse of hope today, then my purpose has been served.  

Just like watching the news.  We’re inundated with madness.  Madness and negativity sells news.  But it’s just a drop in the bucket of what is really happening here on this planet.  There is still so much compassion we have for each other.  Most of us still care for our planet and are doing what we can to save it.  The majority of us are not money-hungry monsters on power trips.  Let’s not compare apples to oranges and continue to live our lives in a healthy and positive way!

New Empowering Belief: The more that I focus on my own experience and truth the more connected with, and certain I am, about my true path.

New Empowering Habit: Learn to let go of comparison by turning your attention inward through a practice like yoga (https://chopra.com/yoga) or meditation. 

Inspiration: “Owning your own feelings, rather than blaming them on someone else, is the mark of a person who has moved from contracted to expanded awareness.”—Deepak Chopra 

Dee:

If you find yourself still living in fear and doubt, blame and negativity, I urge you to really delve deep into your soul to find out why.  I was fortunate to be able to do this through the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with my sponsor, someone I trust with my life.

I no longer live in fear nor self doubt.  I live in acceptance that I am my best me.  I can live my life today moving forward in a positive direction.  I can use my experiences to help others achieve this light and freeing way of living.

There are many support groups in your area to help you achieve this new-found freedom.  There are doctors, churches, women’s groups, men’s groups, you name it, there’s a group.  Be selective.  Go with your gut.  Shut off your head.  And don’t use a bartender to spill your guts out to…

Limiting Belief 6: I Can Do It Myself, I Don’t Need Anyone’s Help 

No one has ever created success alone. You are an inherently social creature and must rely on others all the time. There are various reasons you may hang on to this limiting belief. It can come from feeling guilty for, or ashamed of, asking for help or from a fear of being let down by or rejected by others but you need others to do great things in the world. 

Dee:

I used to “think” that asking for help was a sign of weakness.  I now “know” and “feel” that the opposite is true.  Picking up that 2,000 pound phone to ask for help always amazes me that the act of asking for help is so not the fearful, all-encompassing task that I make up in my head.  We’re all human and most of us are compassionate beings that thrive on helping others’ in need.  Don’t deprive us of giving the gift of love and service.

Asking for help started when I found I could not go a day in my life without drinking.  I couldn’t stop drinking on my own and I tried every way I could.  When I finally hit my bottom (and my Higher Power knew I was ready for a new chapter in my life…”When the student is ready, the Master appears”), I found myself in a treatment program for alcoholism.  So out of my comfort zone.  When I left that program it was suggested I attend AA meetings.  Yikes!  I’m from a small town.  People will find out!  I might know someone in those rooms.

This is when I truly discovered the gifts received from being a human being and asking for help.  I was embraced by so many like-minded, loving and genuine people who wanted nothing more than to help me through my recovery.  And, yes, I did know many people in the rooms that, I realize now, made it that much more special!

New Empowering Belief: It is safe to ask for help. In asking for help, I inherently also help others.
New Empowering Habit: Practice the law of giving and receiving by asking for help, guidance, or simple presence from someone else every other day. On the other days practice giving your own time, kindness, or presence to those around you.
Inspiration: “If you want to do really important things in life and big things in life, you can’t do anything by yourself. And your best teams are your friends and your siblings.”—Deepak Chopra 

Limiting Belief 7: I’m Not Good Enough 

This belief is embedded in human nature and has a tendency to get the best of you. It can take form in believing you are not skilled enough, talented enough, or even deserving enough; it shows up in life as anxiety, perfectionism, and procrastination (https://chopra.com/articles/how-to-stop-procrastinating). But building self- awareness can help you distinguish the voice of “not good enough” and beat this persistent limiting belief. 

Dee:

Who is the judge of “I’m Not Good Enough”?  Before getting sober and working the 12 Steps of AA, YOU were the judge of me.  I lived my life trying to win your approval.  It was exhausting and unfulfilling.

By asking for help with my sponsor in AA, I found that I lived my life fear-based.  I was awarded the task of really delving into my being, finding out who I am and why.  And then I started a new journey of ridding myself of all the defects and unhealthy thoughts that were not serving me.  I slowly but surely started to get comfortable in my own skin and love myself for who and what I am.

Having a Higher Power in my life today really lightens the load that I carry on my journey through life.  Without my Higher Power (my new judge) my head takes over and Dee once again takes control.  Not pretty.  I have to work on being mindful, being in the present moment, grateful and humble.  And then I know and feel that I am, indeed, “good enough”.

New Empowering Belief: I am 100 percent worthy of all of my dreams and desires.
New Empowering Habit: Practice self-awareness and learn to separate thoughts from your truth by starting a meditation practice, reflecting, or talking to a counselor or coach.
Inspiration: “Once you know who you really are, being is enough. You feel neither superior to anyone nor inferior to anyone and you have no need for approval because you’ve awakened to your own infinite worth.”—Deepak Chopra 

Limiting Belief 8: I Have to Fix or Change ______ Before I Can _______ 

One of the biggest barriers to success is believing you are not ready right now—once you are in that relationship, lose that weight, feel better, heal, and so on. Then you can take action toward your dreams and achieve your goals. However, it is the belief that this is true that is holding us back from having what you desire. 

Dee:

I’ll never be ready so I have to act now.  If I don’t, I’m depriving myself of the gift of learning and experiencing the hardships…and rewards…of taking that journey towards success.  I don’t want to miss anymore miracles because my head told me I wasn’t ready (fear).  I’ve reaped so many, many rewards by being imperfect!

New Empowering Belief: I am already perfect and whole; I can create whatever I desire now.

Dee:

Whoa!  This just brought me back to being in treatment where the group would sit around in a circle and repeat an affirmation of their choice everyday for 28 days.  I came up with “I am a good person.  I am a whole person”.

Only a day or so sober I felt anything but good nor whole.  I hated myself for allowing myself to get to this point.  I hated that I had to drink everyday and that I was a horrible mother, wife, child, and sister.  I was exhausted from lying, hiding and cheating.  I was tired of not sleeping forever, but just passing out and coming to.  My eating habits were atrocious.  But I did wake up most winter mornings to ski!

Anyway, this affirmation I hold true to my heart.  I finally believe that I am a good person and a whole person.  It all makes sense to me now, this journey I’ve been given.  There have been absolutely no coincidences.

Today I get to share affirmations, motivational quotes, and just enlightenment with those who enter my Dee Bubble.  I want everyone to feel good about themselves and their journeys and to share that and their gifts with others.  I get to do that through my art and blogging and speaking at AA meetings and DUI classes.  How do you do it?

I encourage feedback.  I would love to hear your story!  Remember that you are unique and have gifts that no one else on this planet has.  And when you find yourself in a dark place, know that you are not alone.  Please share with us and do not deprive us all of YOU!  Try to stay in the moment and know that it is perfect.  Try to live from your heart and not your head.  We’re all in this TOGETHER 🙂

With warmest aloha,

Dee Harris

For those interested in motivational and inspirational affirmations, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!
New Empowering Habit: Notice where you tell yourself you are not ready and bravely take action toward your vision and goals (https://chopra.com/articles/accountability-the-key-to-reaching-your-goals) every single day. Make sure to reward yourself for taking action!
Inspiration: “You must find the place inside you where nothing is impossible”—Deepak Chopra 

You can find experiences to back up almost any belief, but the key is to make sure that you are consciously aware of the beliefs you are creating. If your beliefs don’t empower you, change them. Will your beliefs be the reason you stop taking action toward the results you want from life? Or will you change them into the ultimate opportunity to create something extraordinary—whether it is a transformation in yourself, your career, or your life? 

Harness the power of your emotions and desires to create a life that feels deeply meaningful with the Chopra Center’s Discover Your Purpose Toolkit, which includes a free e-book, worksheet, 1:1 discovery session, and guided meditation. Get your free toolkit now. (https://www.chopra.com/free-programs/discover-your- purpose-toolkit) 

About the Author 

Nicolette Stinson (/bios/nicolette-stinson)
Certified Coach, Yoga Instructor and Perfect Health Instructor 

Nicolette is an online personal brand strategist for coaches and wellness professionals. She is also a Certified Coach, Chopra Center Perfect Health Instructor, and Yoga Teacher as well as an avid student of mindfulness, creativity, personal development, and spirituality. Visit http://www.nicolettestinson.com (http://www.nicolettestinson.com) to learn more. Read more (/bios/nicolette-stinson) 

From The Chopra Center

7 Virtues for Self-Improvement

7 Virtues for Self-Improvement 

By Melissa Eisler

Virtues are universal moral habits that are widely recognized as good character traits. By practicing virtues every day, you can build and live a purposeful and value-driven life. After a week of focusing on doing good, you’ll notice that you’re attracting more positivity and happiness into your life. 

Some might say that virtuous qualities are innate or developed early in life, but you can also learn and cultivate virtues so that they become more prevalent and habitual in your daily life. By practicing being more virtuous, you can live a more intentional life with greater fulfillment, peace, and joy. Here are seven common virtues. Focus on one a day for a week to gain insight into yourself and bring more joy to those   around you. 

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Dee:

I always thought I was a good, kind person.  But it wasn’t until I got into recovery from alcoholism that I discovered that I was a mean and self-centered human being.  That word “thought” in my first sentence is a word I am grateful to be releasing from my vocabulary.  Being in recovery, becoming more a spiritual being, means for me I no longer have to think so much, to understand it all, but to feel and to live from my heart.  What a foreign way to live my life, but so freeing!

When I left a 28-day alcohol treatment program it was suggested to stay on track that I attend AA meetings and do what was suggested to me there.  I did.  I attended meetings.  I got a Big Book.  I got a sponsor.  I worked the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with my sponsor.  I got into service.  I got better.

Working the Steps with my sponsor showed me how fear-based I had been living my life.  With that fear came defensiveness and selfishness.  I knew no other way.  I hadn’t been taught a different way to be.  That part of my journey didn’t come until I reached rock bottom and then found recovery. 

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When I made my amends to my kids they told me how mean I was.  I was baffled.  Just like alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful.  When I got the drink in me I turned into another creature; it brought out the worst in me.  And I certainly didn’t like “that” person.  As a matter of fact, I loathed and hated her and called her a loser when I saw her in the mirror.  I also had no purpose and felt I was a waste of space on this planet.  How sad is that to have lived 50 years of my life purposelessly?  Again, my journey with a Higher Power in my life today that knows “When the student is ready, the Master appears.” 

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I don’t know if that mean person in me is really who I am inside or who I became when the alcohol changed me.  It doesn’t matter.  Again, no need spending precious energy dwelling on that.  All I know is that today…finally…I am comfortable in my own skin and can truly say I love myself for who and what I am and what my journey has given me.  Virtuous qualities innate or developed, learned or cultivated?  Doesn’t matter.  Today I live as rigorously honest as I can, being me, not fearing your thoughts of me.  Today I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power Greater Than Me.  And today I emanate something good that I don’t even know is happening that attracts people to me in a wonderful way.  Do I understand this?  Nope.

1. Acceptance 

Are you facing a challenge in your life right now or experiencing an emotion you would rather not face? Join the club—this is part of the human experience. The trick here is to reduce resisting experiences that come your way, where you are unable to affect change. Practicing acceptance does not necessarily mean you like, want, support, or endorse everything you cross paths with.

Rather, it means you’re choosing to allow it to be there without resistance, when you can’t change  it anyway. 

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To practice acceptance, identify anything in your life you feel you may be resisting. Notice if there is something you can do to change the situation for the better, and if not, begin the process of releasing that resistance and embracing acceptance. Just as the familiar Serenity Prayer states, “God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”  

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Dee:

When something is bugging the hell out of you I can suggest that you embrace it, thank it for coming, and then let it go…whisked away into the clouds softly and forever.  Well why can’t I walk my talk?  Because I need to dwell in my doo doo for just awhile longer, beat up on myself, and wait to get to that point where I can no longer take it.  Why can I not remember for myself that everything is perfect at this moment? 

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2. Authenticity 

To be authentic is to feel at home in yourself and be true to your values. Authenticity is important in creating healthy relationships, but it can also be challenging to practice on a daily basis due to fear. You may fear that if you showed up as you truly are—saying, doing, and feeling the things within you without censoring yourself— that others might reject you.  

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To practice authenticity, do something that truly reflects your deepest needs, wishes, and values. Give up changing your behavior because of the desire to be liked. Speak up for yourself and say/do what’s in your heart. 

Dee:

Finding out who I am and what makes me tick by working the Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous was the most eye-opening journey I have ever walked.  I feel such a weight off my shoulders knowing how fear-based I lived most of my life and why.

Today I accept it, embrace it, and let it whisk away whilst concentrating on self-love and self-care.  Turn my head off.  Meditate.  A bit of yoga.  Get out in nature.  Enjoy quiet.  Write. 

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Today I get to live in rigorous honesty.  I was so exhausted from lying, hiding and cheating for decades in my active disease.  No more.  I’ve got to use my energy in positive ways.  And today my Higher Power has given me purpose…to share my experience, strength and hope with whoever enters my Dee bubble and might need a ray of light and inspiration, a glimpse of hope, some optimism, and knowing no one needs to go through anything, ever, alone!

3. Compassion 

Sara Schairer, founder of Compassion It, a nonprofit dedicated to the social movement of fostering daily compassionate actions and attitudes, defines compassion (https://chopra.com/articles/whats-the-difference- between-empathy-sympathy-and-compassion) as “the willingness to relieve the suffering of another.” It can be difficult to sit with your own suffering or observe/feel it from someone else. But like the other virtues, compassion is a skill that gets easier with practice.  

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Practicing compassion for someone (this can be yourself) who is suffering can come in many different forms. To get started, read Sara’s article (https://chopra.com/articles/4-steps-to-finding-peace-through-compassion) and follow its four steps. Before you know it, you will be connecting with others and yourself in a more meaningful way. (https://chopra.com/free-programs/discover-your-purpose-toolkit?_ga=2.12561396.1726373736.1526314196- 557740326.1524243263) 

Dee:

One thing I do daily to keep myself centered, grounded, humble and grateful is to thank my Higher Power for everything, and I mean everything.  If it doesn’t go my way or isn’t what I want I know there are no coincidences and that I am meant to learn from it, grow, and become a better person.

I also ask my Higher Power to help me to be mindful, compassionate, respectful and loving.  That means for me to make eye contact with you and give you my complete attention.  Shut my head off from my to-do list.  I ask my Higher Power to help me not judge, to put myself in your shoes.  I have no clue what your life is like or what you’ve been through.  But your sharing your journey with me will help me better understand and, again, grow and be a better person. 

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4. Curiosity

When you’re curious, problem solving becomes easier because you see more options, paths, and ways of solving a problem than your non-curious counterparts. You question more; you gather more opinions; you don’t stop at the first solution–which can lead to greater possibilities. 

To truly embrace an attitude of curiosity means you begin to question things in your life and the world around you with no attachment to the answer. This last part is the key. Even if the subject at hand is something you know a lot about–pretend like you are getting to know it for the first time and with wonder, begin to inquire, observe, and learn. To do this without judgment requires an incredibly high degree of openness. Embracing curiosity involves playfulness, lightness, and openness–all fun qualities to practice, so remember to enjoy the process! 

Dee:

Of course I have curiosity.  Thank God for Google.  But if I can’t get the answer I need, if technology isn’t going smoothly today, I let it go for now.  If I feel the answer to my curiosity isn’t going to be something that serves me favorably, I let that go, too.  I only have x amount of energy and I must pick and choose how I spend my time.  I always choose to spend it in a positive way.  A way that will help me and others to achieve our highest good.

Another option I always have waiting for me is my God Box.  If I’m in a dilemma and don’t know which way to turn or what choice to make, I put it in the God Box.  This alcoholic wants instant answers and gratification.  I’m learning my Higher Power is teaching me patience and faith. 

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5. Forgiveness 

Forgiveness can be difficult to achieve, especially toward loved ones who you feel have wronged you in some way. To forgive is to let go of anger and bitterness, making room for peace and love. 

To begin practicing this virtue, focus on someone to start forgiving. Read Deepak Chopra’s 7 Steps to Forgiveness (https://chopra.com/articles/the-7-steps-to-forgiveness) to get you started, and then put those steps into action. 

Dee:

It’s been easier for me to forgive others I feel have wronged me by putting myself in their shoes.  Again, I have no idea of their journey nor hardships.  I also live by Don Miguel Ruiz’s agreement of “Don’t take things personally” from his book, The Four Agreements.

If you want to live a positive, light life, let go of the negative shit, the wrongs done to you and the hardships you face.  Try to look at the glass half-full and make a positive out of your negatives.  I promise you there is a positive.  Remember to be grateful for this moment.  There are many on this planet who would love to live in your worst day! 

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6. Courage 

There are different types of courage, including physical strength, endurance, mental stamina, and innovation. No matter the type of courage you’re trying to embrace, the presence of fear is part of the process. Ultimately, courage doesn’t mean that you aren’t afraid, it means that you take action despite your fear. As Nelson Mandela said, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who  conquers that fear.” 

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To practice being courageous, you’re going to have to face a fear in your life. It can be something small, like singing in the shower, or something big, like confronting (https://chopra.com/articles/mindful-confrontation-9- steps-to-handle-conflict-in-a-healthy-way) a friend. You choose where to begin. Another good way to practice courage is do something new every day. This widens your comfort zone and allows you to experience things you may not otherwise try.  

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Dee:

How many times have we dreaded something we have to face, dwelled on it until it made us sick and sleepless only to find out once face that it wasn’t that bad?  Today I just want to cross if off my damned “to do” list and move on, rather than moving it to the next day, the next day, week, then month.  For pity sake.  It’s a negative.  Embrace it.  Do it.  Let it go. 

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7. Detachment 

The Law of Detachment (https://chopra.com/articles/the-law-of-detachment) states that you should detach yourself, and your ability to be happy, from a desired outcome. Otherwise, attachment to a specific outcome will show up as disappointment when/if that outcome doesn’t happen. 

Find out what you’re attached to—is it a goal? An object? A person?—and follow these five steps (https://chopra.com/articles/5-steps-to-detaching-for-a-happier-life) to detach for a happier life. 

Dee:

“No expectations…no disappointments.”  I love this quote, affirmation, slogan I learned in AA.  So true.  Expectations for me means going into the future.  Why am I going there?  All I have is this moment here and now in front of my nose.  So don’t shit on it.  Why am I “thinking” I can control people, places or things?  My Higher Power has got my back and will protect and guide me on the journey best for me.  So  stop it, Dee.  Detach.

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If you’ve made it this far and kept up with the recommended practices, you’ve probably gained some wisdom along the way. Wisdom—another virtue [noun: goodness, virtuousness, righteousness, morality, integrity, dignity, rectitude, honor, decency, respectability, nobility, worthiness, purity; principles, ethics.]—is about utilizing knowledge and experience with commonsense and insight. 

Which virtue did you find the most challenging to practice? Which was the most fun? Take the knowledge and experience you’ve gained from these exercises and see how you can incorporate these virtues into your everyday life. 

Dee:

My most challenging virtue is walking my talk…staying positive, optimistic and in the moment.  But when I bring myself back to earth and get right-sized with my Higher Power, everything falls back into place, including myself.  

The most fun virtue is just being me, that kid in me, spontaneous and goofy…all about fun!  I stress to my kids who are adults now, “Never grow up.  Never lose sight of your passions!”  And with that I thank you for taking time to read this.  I truly welcome any feedback.

And if you find yourself in a funk know that you are not alone.  Contact me.  Contact the wealth of support services in your area.  Together we can get through anything and make this world a better place!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Well-Being and Self-Love, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

Remember the intention of focusing on your virtues is for you to become more aware of your actions and live a value-driven life—not to master each virtue after one day. See if you can find ways to practice virtues each day. Over time, they will become daily habits. 

Get personalized guidance to create a clear roadmap to self-improvement with the Chopra Center’s Discover Your Purpose Toolkit, which includes a free e-book, worksheet, 1:1 discovery session, and guided meditation. Get your free toolkit now. (https://www.chopra.com/free-programs/discover-your-purpose-toolkit) 

About the Author 

Melissa Eisler (/bios/melissa-eisler)
Certified Leadership & Career Coach, Yoga & Meditation Instructor, Author 

Melissa is the Senior Content Strategist at the Chopra Center. Also an ICF Certified Leadership and Career Coach (ACC) and certified meditation and yoga instructor, she is passionate about motivating people to live a healthy, balanced, and purposeful life. You can learn more about Melissa’s coaching practice at MelissaEisler.com (https://melissaeisler.com/). Melissa is also the author of The Type A’s Guide to Mindfulness: Meditation for Busy Minds and Busy People (http://amzn.to/1J1dYvz), a practical guide for new meditators in the modern world, and the creator of mindfulminutes.com (http://mindfulminutes.com/), a… Read more (/bios/melissa-eisler) 

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