When You Feel Like Crap, And What To Do About It
by Josiah Samuel Harry
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You are vertical and ventilating, but you still feel like crap. Every success initiative you employ seems to flop. Your dreams and goals appear to be out of reach, and you’re no longer enjoying life as you once did. Even the universe itself seems to be conspiring against you. So how do you get yourself out of the shitty mood and get back on the path to success?
Start your day with positive affirmation. Make it a habit to avoid thoughts or conversations that undermine your dreams. Do not give power and energy to negativity or anything that will deplete your mental strength. Instead, you ought to retrain your focus on motivating energy. Do your best to use positive words when talking. Start your day with statements like: “I am so happy and grateful to see another beautiful day” or “I love myself for who I am” or “I will put forth my best effort and accept responsibility for my success and happiness.”
I use positive affirmations regularly. I am a firm believer they work, to at least get me back in the moment in front of me.
When I was in an alcohol treatment program our group started our day reciting an affirmation we chose for ourselves. I chose “I am a good person. I am a whole person”. Well, for starts, I’m in rehab so I’m not feeling real good about myself. As a matter of fact, I feel like shit, a loser, a waste of space on the planet. I cannot go a day without drinking.
The treatment program taught me I have the disease of alcoholism. Then one day at a time, doing what was suggested to me there and in the rooms of AA, I began to get better. I continued repeating that affirmation daily. It took a long time but eventually I did feel like a good person and a whole person. Today I not only feel it, I know I AM it!
I am also finding that it takes a lot of energy to be in a shitty mood. It’s so much easier and lighter to be positive and optimistic. So there’s another choice I have made to better myself and my life. The energy I have today will be used in a helpful, hopeful, and useful way.
So if I feel shitty or have shitty thoughts I say, “Thank you for coming. I embrace you. You do not serve me, so please go.” And then I allow those feeling and thoughts to be whisked away into the clouds.
Shift your paradigm. A paradigm is a host of thoughts, ideas, and experiences that frame one’s reality. In order to see success through its fulfillment, it necessitates adopting new beliefs that bridge your ridiculously-impossible dream with effort, skill, passion. If your goals are small, then your effort will follow suit, and your success outcomes will likely be small. This isn’t to say that bigger is always better, but sometimes it is.
I hope to never give up being a kid with a wild imagination and dreams and hopes. If I give that up why bother going on? There is nothing to look forward to or to be excited about.
I allow the dreams and hopes to surface from my heart and not my head. My head seems to stifle my aspirations with rationalizations and fear. My heart fills me with joy and potential. Therefore, I choose to live today with a new m.o…from my heart and not my head…from that angel on my shoulder and not the devil on the other shoulder.
And I have found that living this way, and by turning my will and my life over to the care of a Power Greater Than Myself (as suggested in the rooms of AA), I DO get to experience the Promises (pages 83-84, Chapter 6 “Into Action”, in Alcoholics Anonymous, written by Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob)…in a way far greater than I could ever have imagined!
Match your actions with your ambitions. If your goal is to establish a functional stable Mars colony, then you will need a spacecraft large and powerful enough to get you to Mars. In order to experience high-level success, you must prioritize and devote a ton of time to the tasks that will get you closer to your goals. Don’t let the mantra: “Everybody wants to be a winner until it’s time to do what winners do” define your reality.
Actions speak louder than words. Walk my talk. But I don’t want to. I don’t have time. It’s not fun.
I used these excuses in my business I started five years ago. Putting together an online business requires knowledge and computer skills. Didn’t light a spark in me 5 years ago. It was suggested to me to do certain things that, again, didn’t float my boat. So 5 years later with just a so-so business I have chosen to better myself and my business.
I have enrolled in on-line courses, narrowing down to one particular instructor who fits me and my needs. Hours, months, years of research. I am finally doing what is suggested and the spark is starting to ignite. You see, “When the student is ready, the master appears.” Now is my time, not 5 years ago.
So the last few months I have poured myself into redesigning my website, focusing on my brand and target market, concentrating on policies and procedures. And today I am exited to do this. When the time is right…when I am right…it will happen!
Pivot. To pivot is to change direction and make necessary adjustments to get you on a path that will lead to considerable growth and success. When you conclude that you are no longer on the correct path based on experience and evidence, then it is time to redirect your time, money, and effort to another success initiative. Sometimes you have the right idea, but there isn’t a market for that idea, yet. So fish where the fish are, and remember to use the right bait.
So changing my direction and remembering who and what I am…an alcoholic in recovery with a purpose to share my experience, strength and hope…I have concentrated my efforts on a business to do just that…offer compassion, mindfulness and optimism to those who are seeking that.
I remember how important affirmations are to my life so I share them with my target market in a fun and beautiful way. I have created art with a message to offer enjoyment and a reminder to stay in the moment and embrace who and what you are, right here, right now. It’s finally making sense to me. The fire is finally lit and the kid in me is excited to go to work every morning like being in a candy store.
Persist. To persist means to rise to the occasion when your best performance is needed most—and that’s every day. Remaining focused on accomplishing your goals in the face of opposition, setbacks, and unforeseen challenges is hard work. Achieving your greatest potential takes time—meaning years, even decades. Nonetheless, if you desire to experience unparalleled success, then you must be willing to stretch beyond the limits of your creative endurance.
The common denominator among the five points above is perspective. That is, setting high and realistic expectations for yourself and celebrating the path you are on while learning and growing.
So this journey of improving my business is interconnected with my journey of improving myself and my life in recovery. Yes, we do all have to earn a living and I have chosen a path that allows my passion to thrive.
And it takes heaps of time, endurance, patience…improving my life and my business. It is exciting to know that I am right where I need to be and that my Higher Power has my back and is guiding me in the direction that is best for me, one that serves me by serving HIm.
Yes, I’ve got to keep everything in perspective. Remember to stay in the moment which means to stay grateful, and humble, and to Turn It Over. It’s all interconnected. We are all interconnected. No coincidences.
Mahalo for being here. With warmest aloha, Dee Harris
For those interested in checking out my Art with a Message of hope and optimism using motivational quotes and affirmations, please check out my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Enjoy!
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