Day 6 – How to Grow in Trust and Belief
“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou
Today in meditation we learn that hope is not effective if we do not believe in our self or have inner trust. Building a life of hope means we base it on a foundation of self-awareness. This core self is where real trust must come from.
Welcome to Day 6 of our meditation, “How to Grow in Trust and Belief.” In a Super Soul Session best-selling author Renee Brown, a master of research on vulnerability and how it can lead to a better life explained “The Anatomy of Trust.” She told a story about her daughter’s teacher using a marble jar system of discipline and reward system in the classroom. When the class did positive things the teacher would add marbles to the jar. And when they did something negative marbles were removed. When the jar was full the class got a party. Renee shared a story after her daughter feeling hurt and afraid after some friends broke her trust. To comfort her daughter Renee used the teacher’s marble jar as a metaphor for trust. You share yourself and your vulnerability with friends and each time it’s honored and kept safe, your jar fills up with more marbles. Renee calls them “trust moments”.
Trust is not built on the grandest gestures of others at crucial moments in our lives, but built in very small moment one marble, or one moment, at a time. We trust those friends and loved ones whose jars are full, people who have built up a store of trust moments with us. In fact, the most important person you need to build trust with is yourself. Get still and hone in on the whispering sensation that pulses just beneath the surface. I think it’s the way the Divine speaks to us. That is your true being, your truest place of trust and peace. That is hope and it is magnificent. Now let’s let Deepak to grow and trust in trust and belief.
Trust and belief are two other qualities that support our journey of hope. If you hope for an outcome but don’t believe it will happen you are giving yourself false hope. If you have no trust that a good outcome is possible that, too, defeats hope. When belief and hope are weak trust is weak. Fortunately trust and belief are two things we have control over.
Everyone has core beliefs about how life works out. These core beliefs are about what we think is fair and unfair, right and wrong. When someone believes life is unfair they see unfairness everywhere. To get past restrictive beliefs you can try to examine them one at a time. But in our meditation practice we go to a place inside where there are no beliefs where negative or positive is not relevant. This all-inclusive non-judgmental awareness is vital because no matter how uplifting or sensible your beliefs may be they won’t hold true in every situation.
Good and bad experiences defy our belief systems. But in the World’s Wisdom Traditions there’s an organizing power in consciousness that arranges our lives in an evolutionary way. By connecting with our own awareness at this level there is no need for beliefs that originate in opinions and limited experience. The only belief necessary is the belief that expresses itself as the presence of self-awareness.
Where our self-trust lies determines how positive or negative we are and how we see the world. If we have self-doubt life is pretty bleak; if we have self-worth we have hope and optimism and positivity in our lives.
Trust is very similar. People develop notions of who can be trusted or not trusted based on a limited viewpoint, basically the ego’s desire to pleasure and avoid pain. The journey of hope is not about learning to trust others or outside forces it’s about inner trust, trusting your true self. With inner trust no one else is trustworthy or untrustworthy. Other people are reflections of yourself, bringing signals from the Universe that you can use or not use; it’s your choice. When we ignore our inner guidance of self-awareness, however, hope can devolve into denial, self-deception and wishful thinking. When we cooperate with our own evolution we respond to the signals sent to us at every moment. Trust that reality is leading you to new insights, truths and creativity. This is the foundation that invites evolutionary impulses to guide you everyday.
I trust in my core self at every moment.
Om Aieem Namah
My true self is inspired and wise.
Hope is not effective if we do not believe in ourselves or have inner trust; as a matter of fact, I don’t believe anything is effective. Where did that inner trust go? Why did we lose trust in ourselves? Where did the self-doubt come from?
From the moment our awareness surfaced we started to have experiences. Many of those experiences contained other human beings. Those human beings had opinions. Those opinions we either took to heart or shrugged off. And those experiences helped to develop who we are today.
If those experiences were kind and nurturing, we have a pretty high opinion of ourselves and self-worth. If those opinions were degrading and hurtful, we started to feel pretty shitty about ourselves. One experience at a time our inner trust was either strengthened and developed or lost to the world around us. You are comfortable enough to share yourself and your vulnerability with others because you feel good about yourself at your core. You have trust. You have peace. You have hope.
So connect with your own awareness where there is no need for beliefs that originate in opinions of others, where the only belief necessary is the belief that expresses itself as the presence of self-awareness which determines how positive or negative we are and how we see the world. Shed your self-doubt and those layers of onion skin that do you no good. Trust your inner-self and live a life full of hope!
Share that practice with those who enter “your bubble”, especially the children. Bring hope and optimism back into the world. I guarantee the world will be a better place!
With much aloha, Dee
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(Taken from Deepak and Oprah’s 21-Day Meditation Series)