Your Deepest Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 7

Your Deepest Desire

“In the desire of the One to know Himself, we exist.”― Rumi

Congratulations! Today we complete the first week of our journey together. This week we have learned about the power of our desires and how to use Nature to fulfill them. We have learned that happiness and fulfillment are our birthright, and that the most effective way to manifest our dreams is also the easiest way.

Today we discover that our deepest desire is for spiritual awakening, which is the state of fulfillment and completeness. All other desires are variations on this basic desire for actualization. Every desire is a fragment of our being that seeks awakening, completion, and wholeness.

 

CENTERING THOUGHT

My deepest desire is for completeness.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Ananda Hum
I am pure bliss.

OPRAH:
Welcome to Day 7 – Your Deepest Desire. Well, we’re already completing our first week of connecting with our dreams and how to fulfill them. I’m hoping you’re feeling the energy of attraction within you in a new way. Can you see it showing up?

We’ve begun to align with the deepest part of ourselves where we find the connective tissue between our desires and the power that’s waiting to help manifest them. We’ve seen how desiring from the level of your truest self and trusting the universe to respond to that truth, that’s how you get what you want.

It’s the most powerful path to fulfillment. Focusing, getting clear, embracing positive emotions, surrendering and moving with the current of your true-self. These are the cornerstones of manifesting the life you want.

Today Deepak brings us back to the place where our most whole, powerful intentions reside…within…that is the source of joy, the source of freedom, the source of wholeness. It’s the core from which the energy of attraction gets lit up. There we’ll take the next steps toward making our real dreams, the true ones, come into being.

DEE:
My energy of attraction is totally different today than when I was active in my disease of alcoholism. As a matter of fact, I felt anything but whole. While I sat in Group in a 28- day alcohol treatment program, the group was asked to repeat every morning an affirmation we came up for ourselves. Mine was “I am a good person. I am a whole person,” but in my mind I was neither good nor whole and I hated myself for getting into a place where I couldn’t go a day without drinking.

On my new journey in recovery and with the help of the treatment program, Alcoholics Anonymous, and learning self-care through meditation experiences such as this, I am finally in touch with my true-self. And a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I am finally feeling the joy, freedom and wholeness the Universe, Nature, God, my Higher Power has intended for me!

DEEPAK:

Congratulations for completing the first week of our meditation experience. You’ve acquired the foundation for turning intentions into reality. I’m sure there have been surprises along the way because this vision of effortlessly achieving what you want isn’t like the conventional advice given by society.

DEE:
In my sobriety I have been painstakingly trying to unlearn the conventional advice given me by society. It definitely didn’t nurture my highest good. With the help of AA’s 12 Steps and working with a trusted sponsor, I have learned how fear-based I have behaved most of my life. Because of society!

So I am unlearning that “more is better”, more money, more power, more stuff. I am unlearning to gain your approval because your approval doesn’t serve me. I am unlearning to put these superficial goals first and to take care of me, to nurture me, to love me for who and what I am. I am finally free to be myself!

DEEPAK:
You’ve learned that the world in here is connected to the world out there which means that your intentions can flow from your true self to find fulfillment in every area of life. People may spend a lot of time and energy making their desires very, very specific. But what really gives any desire its power is how strongly it’s connected to the ground of being…the true-self.

Behind every desire, however small, is the energy of attraction, which brings the outcome of desire. The energy of attraction is most powerful near the source, just as electricity is most powerful when it comes out of the generator. Therefore, your deepest desires are actually the easiest to fulfill.

No doubt this comes as a surprise since conventional wisdom holds just the opposite. Your deepest desires can come true naturally and without struggle because your deepest desires are signals from your true-self. The force of evolution in the universe supports whatever is true and promotes harmonious growth.

The desires people spend the most time chasing after, such as more money, a better job, and a bigger home, also employ the energy of attraction. But the path that follows is weaker and more indirect. Why? Because the focus is on the external goal not on consciousness.

This isn’t to judge against getting a nicer life, but when you pursue love, beauty, creativity, innovation, meaning and a higher vision of life, the energy of attraction becomes much stronger. Its strength comes from wholeness. The more whole you are, the more powerful your intentions.

It’s the same as seeing a whole picture of Niagara Falls or the Grand Canyon instead of the scattered pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. The picture is there in the scattered pieces, but it’s not whole enough to recognize.

A secret of the World’s Wisdom Traditions is that every single desire, no matter how small, is working toward one goal…to make you more complete. Only through feeling whole will you feel fulfilled. Through meditation you get in touch with the primal desire for wholeness, happiness and freedom. Let this be your personal vision. We should also embrace every smaller, more specific desire along the way.

DEE:

Getting sober has allowed me to put the pieces of “my” puzzle together and start to make sense of this journey called my life. It’s been magical. It’s been meaningful. And it’s been necessary to bring me to the place today, which is right where I am supposed to be…and it is perfect!

Today I feel complete, whole, fulfilled and content. Just like The Promises state in the AA Big Book, “You will find a new happiness and a new freedom”. I have, indeed, found these gifts, along with immense gratitude. And today I have been given a purpose and excitement to give back what was so freely given me in my despair. I “get to” share my Experience, Hope and Strength with everyone who enters my “Dee Bubble”, offering respect, mindfulness, compassion and love.

Thank you for being here for me. Know that I am here for you so please contact me anytime. Together we can get through anything and make our world a better place!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with Affirmations and Inspiration, please visit my website at http://www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Mahalo and enjoy!

DEEPAK:
As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My deepest desire is for completeness. My deepest desire is for completeness.” Now let’s prepare for our meditation.

Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes. Begin to become aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply. With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Ananda Hum.” This mantra awakens the state of fulfillment that is your true self. As you repeat the mantra feel the sense of completeness, the joy and sense of wholeness of your inner being. Repeat it silently to yourself, “Ananda Hum.” With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.”

Please continue with your meditation. I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell. “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.” Just mentally, “Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum. Ananda Hum.”

From The Chopra Center.

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The Power of Attention

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

 

Day 6

The Power of Attention

CENTERING THOUGHT

My attention activates my desires.

SANSKRIT MANTRA
Hum Sa
Unboundedness is my true nature.

OPRAH:

Welcome. It’s Day 6 already – The Power of Attention is what we’re talking about today. Hah, the power of attention. It’s such a perfect name for today’s meditation because attention really is your power source. Nothing in your life happens willy-nilly. You’re creating your own reality by what you choose your attention to and what you give your attention to, what you focus on, expands.

DEE:

My focus is to stay in the present moment, to be mindful of what is right in front of my nose. It’s not easy while the hamster wheel is spinning around in my head. But if I can have the hamster take just a short time-out, I can remind myself to get mindful, respectful, compassionate and caring. Then I start to get OK. From there I remember to get grateful and humble and remember I’m just along for the ride while my Higher Power takes me to where I need to go in my life.

OPRAH:

How often have you heard others say or you even thought to yourself, “I’m just trying to make it through this day.” It’s no surprise that if that is your attitude the energy that you bring to the day, that’s exactly what happens. You barely just make it through the day, rather than fully flourish.

What we dwell on and focus on is what we receive. So if you want more in your life, more connection, more meaning, more fulfillment, you have to learn to shift your attention, your power source to something deeper and truer. And from that pure and sacred place you can attract more abundance and goodness into your life. It’s bigger than any dream that you’ve ever imagined for yourself.

DEE:

This is so true, and I’m not too keen on believing in what isn’t tangible. But it works. I’ve tried it. So if I turn my will and my life over to the care of a god of my own understanding, and that includes my to-do list, I listen to my gut and then I do the footwork of what feel right at that moment.

I tend to not be so stressed out because I’m not in control. But what needs to get done, gets done! And when I’m able to just go with the flow, my life flows more fluidly without the rapids. Go figure. Can’t explain it, except for this newfound freedom must be attracting more of the same.

OPRAH:

So let’s focus our attention on Deepak’s wisdom in today’s meditation and watch and see what shows up.

DEEPAK:

If you want a dream to come true, it takes more than dreaming. The mind needs to focus in a special way, using the power of intention. Electric current in a house can be strong or weak and the same holds true for our intentions. Whenever there’s a problem with your electricity, it can exist anywhere along the line, beginning at the power station. In the case of having an intention that comes true, the power source is attention.

 

DEE:

When I feel my mind, body or spirit is having a problem with my “electric current” I immediately see if I’m in H.A.L.T. (hungry, angry, lonely or tired). Usually I am and I tend to it quickly. Self-care is key for me that has never been my priority before getting sober. Today I am grateful to not have to pick up a drink and to have learned how to not only care for myself, but to love myself. I never did or had this when I was active in my disease.

DEEPAK:

What you pay attention to will grow. And if your attention is focused from the level of the true-self, it can attract anything and everything to you. In a word, attention activates the energy of attraction. Every wish or desire is like a tiny seed which contains the blueprint for the tree that manifests from the seed.

The seed of desire, which is also the seed of every intention, needs nourishment to grow. If you want a desire to manifest, here are some important ways to put the right attention on it.
•Have a clear intention. Don’t muddy it with compromises and excuses for why it won’t come true.

•Have positive emotions around your desire. Feel how good it will be to fulfill it. Believe that what you want is beneficial for you, without any negative consequences to those around you.
•Be prepared for any response the universe brings and be flexible about how you go from there. Feel confident that hidden forces will come to your aid once your desire is released to the universe.

DEE:
Having the faith that my Higher Power, God, the Universe, or whatever you want to call it, makes all the difference in the world. If I have an intention and my Higher Power believes that I am ready for it to come to fruition, then it does. If it doesn’t, I don’t pout or cop a resentment because I know that I am not ready for it at this time in my life.

There are no coincidences. Everything in my life has happened and is happening for a reason…and that reason is for my highest good. If the student isn’t ready, then the Master doesn’t appear. Period. Move on, Dee.

And if I choose to live an optimistic and positive life with that kind of attitude, that is what I reap. More of the same. My glass is always half-full, no matter how tragic the circumstances around me. Again, I am not in control of people, places or things. I have to learn to go with the flow…which is life…and know I’m doing my best.

DEEPAK:

Being able to use your attention in this way depends most of all on your state of consciousness. Desires that originate in the true-self easily reach fulfillment. Desires that arise in an agitated, worried, confused mind will struggle to be fulfilled.

In meditation you expand and deepen your awareness. The more this happens the less effort is required to have successful intentions. When we allow our intentions to flow from the silence that is the basis of the mind, the energy of attraction automatically obeys what the mind desires.

DEE:

Such a great gift…sobriety! Again, no coincidences my journey from living in the depths of hell in my disease to the place I am today. Not only was I able to learn about the disease of alcoholism in rehab, I got to learn who and what I am by working the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Wow! It all makes so much sense now. It’s so much easier now, just surrendering everything and being the real me having learned who I am by working the Steps. I no longer have to live in fear of your thoughts of me. I can be comfortable in my own skin. I can love myself. And I can share my Experience, Strength and Hope with all who enter my Dee Bubble. How magical is that? because I know if I don’t give it away, I can’t keep it (I tried and found myself in that deep, dark place once again).

Thank you for allowing me to share my passion, my optimism and hope. And please leave a feedback if you wish. I love sharing our stories!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those looking for Inspirational Art with a Message of Hope and Optimism, please visit my website at http://www.DeesignsByHarris.com. Mahalo and enjoy!

DEEPAK:

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My attention activates my desires. My attention activates my desires.” Now let’s prepare for our meditation. Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.

Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply. With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Hum Sa.” This mantra activates the transformative attention of pure awareness. As you repeat the mantra feel the awakening of your powerful attention. Repeat it silently to yourself, “Hum Sa.” With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises, or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.” Please continue with your meditation. I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell. “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.” Just mentally, “Hum Sa. Hum Sa. Hum Sa.”

The Chopra Center

The Spirit of Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 2 – The Spirit of Desire

“It is an awesome thing to comprehend that what a human being dreams and imagines can be realized.” ― Vanna Bonta

CENTERING THOUGHT

My desires make me feel alive.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Rasa Hum
I am the essence of life.

Today we will look at desire as the primal creative energy within us, and at the heart of creation. Desire is the feeling force of life itself. As we tap into this powerful life force, we want to make sure that what we manifest is not only positive and life-supporting in our lives, but for everyone else as well. To do that, we need to create from the level of intelligence of Nature that already upholds and harmoniously integrates all the diversity of the cosmos.

This isn’t just the easiest way to manifest desires that are beneficial for everyone – it’s really the only way to create in a way that that is in accord with all the other forces of evolution. Our silent awareness is aligned with the infinite intelligence of Nature, and our small ego mind isn’t. Today in meditation we will contact that source of desire – the source of thought, deep within awareness. Then as desire sprouts from that silence, it will attract all the nourishment and guidance it needs to manifest.

Oprah:

Welcome to Day 2 – The Spirit of Desire.  You were born to fulfill your destiny, your purpose, and your purpose is fueled by your desires.  From the moment you get out of bed you’re moving toward something you want, even if it’s as simple as your first sip of tea or coffee.  Having hopes, desires and ambitions is what makes you human.  It isn’t vain or self-centered; it’s part of life’s natural rhythm.

Dee:

For the first decades of my life I felt I had no purpose.  I especially felt this way when I was reaching my bottom in my disease of alcoholism.  I so could not figure out why I had to drink everyday.  I still had a home and family.  I still had a job.  I had family and friends who loved me.  So why in the hell could I not go a day without drinking?  Why did my life revolve around alcohol?  That’s all I could think about.

Well I know now that was my journey.  I know that now because my journey brought me to a treatment facility for alcoholism.  I learned about my disease and I learned about AA which has given me a toolbox for living a sober life…a life beyond my wildest dreams.

And in my toolbox is a Power Greater Than Myself, a Higher Power of my own understanding.  And that is where the magic happens!  Today I know my purpose.  Today I “get to” share my experience, strength and hope with all who enter my Dee Bubble.  I “get to” give back what was so freely given to me when I needed it most.

Oprah:

As Deepak shall show us there are laws that rule the universe.  The laws of the universe are neutral.  You can attract negative or positive forces in your life.  Your challenge is to nurture the truest and most authentic desires that are within you.  Those are the desires that fulfill you, expand you, and flow outwards to impact others for the good.  They are desires fueled by the energy of love, and love has many names.  Grace is love.  So is kindness, forgiveness, understanding, respect, cooperation, collaboration, harmony, a reverence for life, is love.

Deepak is going to take us to a deeper understanding of the creative, life-supporting nature of desire.  And then we’re going to meditate.

Deepak:

In order to master the art of desire the first step is to be judgement-free.  Many people feel guilty about their desires or think they want more than they deserve.  But in reality desire is natural and necessary to life.

Dee:

In order to keep my sobriety I must stay judgement-free.  I must just take care of my side of the street.  I am no better than you, nor you than me.  We are all equal and we are all on our own journeys.  I have not walked in your shoes, nor you in mine.  So how could we possibly judge each other?

Deepak:

We all want to attract more of the good things in life.  The energy of attraction is neutral.  You can attract positive or negative results.  Our goal is to make every desire positive, life-supporting and powerful.

Dee:

I reap what I sow.  If I am sowing negativity, that is what I shall receive.  So I choose to live as positively as I can.  I choose to find positivity in everything, no matter how horrific or hideous.  It is there if you look at the broad picture.

Deepak:

The highest desire you can have is to grow and evolve.  Nature is constantly expanding.  An ancient Indian scripture says, “I am one.  May I become many?  May I go forth?”  The desires, wishes and intentions you have everyday are what turn the present into the future, creating new things along the way.  So desire is a creative act.

Dee:

I wake up every morning now excited for what this new day will bring.  I know that I will be presented with new lessons, new relationships and new growth.  I was never excited before getting sober when I “came to” in the morning.  I had nothing to look forward to except my battle with alcohol, and my battle with myself.

My Higher Power gifts me each day with this new excitement.  Today I don’t have to pick up a drink.  I can if I want but why would I?  I know that first drink will wake up the Devil in me, my disease, and shout out for more.  I know that because I’ve tried it, after 13-1/2 years of being sober.  Yes, the disease is there doing push-ups, waiting for that pinhole of weakness, and then it is off and running worse than before.

So I turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand God.  I know my god will protect and guide me today.  I know that my god has a plan for me today and I will do my best to listen to my heart, and learn and grow the way I believe is meant to be.

Deepak:

In Sanskrit the word for desire is karma and from the ancient times it was considered neither bad nor unspiritual.  The fulfillment of desire is one of the main goals of life, in fact, taught to every child in the traditional Indian household.  

Once you stop judging your desires you will realize that you’re designed to fulfill your intentions.  You begin to ask for what you want.  You do what it takes to get what you want.  You plan your whole life around desire.  Therefore, becoming skilled in manifesting your intentions is a worthy goal.  It doesn’t make you a selfish or greedy person.

When negativity is attached to desire intentions can run into trouble.  They become misguided or harmful, obsessive or desperate, frustrated and unfulfilled.  These problems don’t arise when the desire is life-supporting.  Without desire our existence would be flat, inert and uninteresting.

Dee:

I have got to keep myself in the moment.  When I do, I am centered; I am grateful; I am humble.  I can remember where I came from and where I am today.  Night and day.  I remember that I am not in control.  I remember that everything is perfect at this moment…that I am perfect at this moment.

And when I can remain in the moment I can remain positive.  I can remain good and whole.  Because when I was in rehab my affirmation was, “I am a good person.  I am a whole person.”  And I felt anything but.  I was a loser.  I was a waste of space on the planet.  I had no purpose.  I hated myself.

Deepak:

So the second step in harnessing the energy of attraction is to celebrate the fact that you have wishes, hopes, dreams and aspirations.  Inside your awareness lies the means to make any possibility come true.

As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My desires make me feel alive.  My desires make me feel alive.”  Now let’s prepare for our meditation.  Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.  Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply.  With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.

Now gently introduce the mantra, “Rasa Hum.”  Rasa is the essential quality or emotional flavor of life.  This mantra connects you with the vital energy or feeling of life itself.  As you repeat the mantra, feel the flavor.  Feel the aliveness of your spirit.  Repeat it silently to yourself.  “Rasa Hum.”  With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.

Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises, or physical sensations, simply return your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.”

Please continue with your mediation.  I’ll mind the time.  And when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell.  “Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.”  Just mentally, “Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.  Rasa Hum.”

Dee:

Getting sober and practicing the 12 Steps I learned in Alcoholics Anonymous opened up for me not only a sober life, but a spiritual life.  I am so drawn to meditation and yoga and this new way of life today.  I am so glad I am an alcoholic.  I may never have found this new way of life!

Thank you being here today.  I encourage any and all feedback as we are not meant to be on our journeys alone.  Namaste.

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Spirituality, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

From Chopra Center Meditation

The Nature of Desire

Energy of Attraction

Welcome to the 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction. We are honored you’re joining us as we seek our true nature and discover our path to health and happiness. You will discover your soul’s purpose and create a life in which all things are within reach.

Day 1 – The Nature of Desire

“You are what your deep, driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed.”― Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

Mindful Moment

Welcome to our 21-Day Meditation Experience, Energy of Attraction – Manifesting Your Best Life. We are delighted to have you with us. Together we will explore and experience the forces of attraction to create a balanced life – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Human desire is the essential energy of attraction. Our hopes, dreams, wishes, and intentions are the forces that impel our growth and forward motion in life. We will learn that desire is not only basic to everyday life, it is essential to our spiritual evolution as well. It is through desire that we create more love, joy, and vitality. In our meditations together we will experience the source of desire – our true inner self – and begin to desire from that silent awareness. This is the key to manifesting the life you want.

CENTERING THOUGHT

My life moves forward through desire.

SANSKRIT MANTRA

Eecha Shakti Namah
I honor the universal power of desire.

OPRAH:

Welcome friends to the Energy of Attraction.  The next 21 days is going to open up so many possibilities.  I’m literally tingling about them.  Deepak and I are grateful to have you join us on this journey.

As Deepak will show us the Energy of Attraction is about much more than getting the things you want.  It’s about aligning in order to get the things you want.  Aligning your deepest desires, the innate desires, that give your life meaning at the truest level with the source of all energy that keeps the planets aligned, the earth rotating and the sun rising…everyday.  Alignment is the key.  There is unlimited power in alignment.  Embrace it and you will discover a whole new way of being in the world.

What I know for sure is that we are all energy.  “We come from star stuff,” as Carl Sagan says.  We’re connected to the powerful, constant, universal force that is creation.  And every moment of every day, whether or not we’re conscious of it, we are sending out vibrations…vibrations like love, vibrations like fear, like anger which is also fear, and joy which is also love.

The energy we put out is always, no matter what, returned to us.  You don’t have to believe it.  It’s Universal Law.  And that law guides how we fulfill our lives and our dreams.  Just as it guides the planets.  I’ve seen it at work over and over again.  Like attracts like.  You don’t draw in what you want, you attract who you are.  Change your energy and you can change your entire experience in the world.  Change your intention and you change your path.

How do we tap into that powerful source of guidance?  How do we begin to understand how our deepest desires, our intentions create our thoughts, our words, our actions, and, ultimately, our experiences?  Well, the next 21 days is going to take us there.  So let’s start now.  So exciting as Deepak sheds new light on the nature of desire, and then we’re going to meditate.

DEEPAK:

Right this minute what do you want?  It seems like a simple question.  You might answer, “I don’t really want anything right this minute.”  But every cell in your body wants to survive and thrive, seeking the nourishment it requires.  Your heart wants to beat, your lungs to breathe, your blood to flow through your veins.  The circle of life is about desire.

In nature’s scheme there is enough abundance for every cell to survive and thrive.  And this is true on the personal level too.  Like your body you as an individual inherently strive to be nourished.  In order to thrive you naturally desire more of the good things that create fulfillment…security, vitality, success, love, joy and inner peace.

In this 21-Day Mediation Experience you will learn to connect with nature’s deepest source of nourishment and abundance.  On this journey you will practice the art of making desires come true by using your awareness to produce the results you want.

The circle of desire begins inside whenever you have a wish, dream, hope or intention.  There is an inner intention.  From this seed you want to bring something desirable to you.  Will it happen or will you fail to get the outcome you want?

The secret lies in knowing how to close the circle of desire so that your inner intention leads to an outer result.  In here and out there look like separate worlds.  But there’s a traditional wisdom in every culture that says inner and outer are connected.  A thought, if it is powerful enough, can create a change in outer circumstances.  Something you don’t want can go away.  Something you do want can come to you.

What closes the circle of desire, connecting inner and outer reality, is the energy of attraction.  This will be the focus of our meditations together.  Like every cell that attracts nourishment to itself, you’re always attracting nature’s abundance.  But if your awareness is constricted, if you have conflicting desires that cancel each other out, if your past conditioning keeps attracting negativity, you need to use the energy of attraction in a new and better way.

The energy of attraction is channeled through every and any intention.  The process isn’t mystical.  But there are layers of desire and attraction.  If you ask a waiter in a restaurant to bring you a glass of water, your inner intention becomes manifest.  This is something we all do everyday.

And you’ve probably experiences a deeper level of attraction as when you think of someone and, unexpectedly, they call on the phone.  The energy of attraction is built into your desires and at the deepest level where you create your most personal cherished desires you can achieve incredible results.

We will go deeper than wanting material things because our deepest desires are the most life supporting.  They give our lives meaning and, at the same time, they harness more of the energy of attraction.  This meditation experience provides the tools and understanding to benefit you physically, mentally and spiritually. 

 I hope you feel inspired.  Now let’s begin.  As we prepare to meditate together let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, “My life moves forward through desire.  My life moves forward through desire.”  Now take a moment to make yourself comfortable and close your eyes.  Begin to be aware of your breath and just breathe, slowly and deeply.  With each breath allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed.  

Now gently introduce the sound, “Eecha Shakti Namah.”  This mantra helps you connect with nature’s primal impulse of creative desire.  As you repeat the mantra feel yourself connecting to the universe’s power to create through desire.  Repeat the mantra silently to yourself, “Eecha Shakti Namah.”

With each repetition feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more.  Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises, or physical sensations, simply turn your attention to silently repeating the mantra, “Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.”

Please continue with your meditation.  I’ll mind the time and when it’s time to end you’ll hear me ring a soft bell. “Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.”  Just mentally now, “Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.  Eecha Shakti Namah.”

DEE:

Alignment.  My alignment has changed dramatically due to my journey with alcoholism.  It was that struggle that helped me to finally get aligned.  Before getting clean and sober I was lost; I had no purpose.  I felt I was just existing…a waste of space on the planet.

I couldn’t go a day without drinking, no matter how hard I tried and what method of the day I would enforce.  One glass of water with every glass of alcohol.  Wait until 4 PM before having my first drink.  Just drink at home.  Don’t drink at home.  Etcetera.  Etcetera.  Life was totally getting in the way of my drinking.  Drinking was all I could think about.

When I finally hit my bottom and reached out for help I was afforded the opportunity to learn about the disease of alcoholism.  OK.  Now it all makes sense.  Being the intellectual person I couldn’t, for the life of me, figure out why I couldn’t stop drinking.  Oh, I’m an alcoholic with the disease of alcoholism.

When my 28-days were over in rehab I headed to the rooms of AA where I learned how to live a life without alcohol.  I also learned what makes Dee tick and I learned I wasn’t on this journey alone.  I have been gifted so many like-minded people who have gone through what I have and are willing to help me on this new journey of recovery, asking nothing in return.

Today I get to do that too.  Today that is my purpose…to share my experience, strength and hope with those who enter my Dee Bubble.  Everything is perfect today.  I am in alignment.

I know now that my life and its journeys are not coincidental.  Whether it’s Universal Energy, a Higher Power, or God, my life is unfolding exactly the way it’s supposed to.  For me this new way of looking at life is so amazing and so much better than being that intellectual self…Dee being in control and “thinking” that whatever I wanted, if I wanted it badly enough, I could get it, “will” it.  Bullshit.  I couldn’t will away my alcoholism.

Today I turn my will and my life over to a god of my own understanding, a higher power that has my back, that I can trust to guide and protect me and teach me what I need to learn today.  Interactions with people and daily experiences I now look at with excitement and anticipation for the enlightenment they will bring me.

And I’m finding today that what I reap is what I sow.  If I choose to look at the glass half-full and remain positive, I receive positivity in my life.  If I can practice rigorous honesty with those who enter my Dee Bubble, I receive rigorous honesty.  If I give, I get way more and way better than I could have ever imagined.

So what do I want right now?  I simply want to be the best me that I can be and be OK with that and be OK with me.  I want to be mindful and respectful with, not just myself, but with everyone with whom I interact.  I want to remain grateful and humble for this life in recovery knowing, feeling, that I could not have done this on my own.  Only with the love of a Higher Power did I get to where I am today.  And with this mindset I receive all the security, vitality, success, love, joy and inner peace that I need.

Thank you for reading and wishing you all the best.  

With much aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Inspiration, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

From Chopra Center Meditation

9-Step Strategy to Make a Decision

9-Step Strategy to Make a Decision 

By Tamara Lechner

It’s no secret that adulting is harder than you thought it would be when you were growing up. Children assume adults have all the answers. As a kid, this leads you to draw the conclusion that when you grow up you will automatically have them all, too.

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You may have been educated into believing that you don’t know yourself best. This begins in school when you are taught to listen to the rules rather than your own internal guidance system. You can no longer eat when you are hungry, move when you feel fidgety, or rest when you feel tired. In following the schedule designed for you, you begin to believe—because it is implied—that your teachers know what is  best for you. 

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Sure, you might want to color the sky green, but when you are told that the sky is supposed to be blue, you think that your impulse to use green was wrong. Eventually, you begin to subtly believe that you don’t know what is best for yourself. And this tiny shimmer of self-doubt grows as your coaches, parents, and peers point out that your music, clothes, sleep schedule, and food choices aren’t good choices for you. By the time you are college-aged, it’s amazing that you can make any choices at all. 

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Finding answers becomes a process of looking outside yourself for advice from experts who can offer experience and an educated opinion. It can also be about making pro/con lists. After you have gathered all the information you need, you frequently find yourself stuck in analysis paralysis—that place where rather than making a choice, you want to keep getting opinions from others. It seems you have lost the  ability to trust yourself. 

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Here’s a simple guide to reconnect with your self-trust, keeping in mind that nobody has your answers except you. 

Listen to Your Body 

Your body sends you signals of what is good for you and what isn’t. Practice hearing them. Sleep when you feel tired, eat a reasonably sized portion of healthy food when you are hungry, and move when your body needs to move. Be mindful of what your body wants.  

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Dee:

HALT…Hungry.  Angry.  Lonely.  Tired.  I realized early on in sobriety that being in HALT explained a lot of unhealthy thoughts and actions I had.  So when I flipped you off on the freeway or vomited out hurtful words that were supposed to remain in my head, I had better get a bite to eat or take a time-out.  Today I strive to stay out of HALT by practicing self-care prior to getting to that stage.

Go Inward 

Meditation allows you to tap into the inner wisdom you were born with. Like any muscle, the more you flex it, the more comfortable it becomes with being used. Listen to these guided meditations (http://www.chopra.com/articles/guided-meditations#sm.00075k7e71eb0fe7rd51mmcjg2a5w) to get you started.  

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Don’t Buy Into the Panic 

When a decision feels rushed, your brain sends out chemicals that signify it is in a state of alarm. These chemicals actually turn off the brain’s ability to process. This was great when our big urgency was that a dinosaur was about to eat us, but choosing who to date, what to study, or where to live shouldn’t create that same panic. Take slow breaths or if time allows, a quick little walk. Allow your body to return to a  more balanced state. 

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Dee:

The alcoholic in me wants to check it off my “to do” list NOW!  The newly-found spiritual person in me says to stay in the moment, be mindful, get back centered and right-sized.  Being mindful of the perfect moment in front of my nose gets me back to being grateful and humble.  It brings me back in touch with the greatest gift I’ve been given in sobriety, a Power Greater Than Myself, over to whom I can turn my will and my life.  

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I can remember that I am not in control.  That my god is in the driver’s seat and I am just along for the ride (a magic carpet ride of a lifetime!) to learn and experience what is meant for me right now.  Ssshhhh!  Quiet my head…  Remember, Dee, everything happens for a reason.  There are no coincidences.  You’ll miss it if your brain is all over the planet. 

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Lean In 

When confusion happens, instead of deciding not to decide, experience and embrace your uncertainty. Repeat your choices slowly as many as six or seven times. The time and the process of repeating the options will allow an unfolding of what you want. 

Dee:

And once I embrace the confusion or some negativity that has entered (or I have allowed to enter) my life, I thank it for coming and then ask it to leave.  In my perhaps imaginary head I can imagine the confusion or negativity being whisked off into the clouds…softly…gently.

I am in that mindful present moment with my Higher Power remembering gratefully that I am not  in control and when the student is ready, the master appears, as shall the answers. 

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Flip a Coin 

Heads is one choice, tails is the other. Usually as you flip it, you will root for heads or tails. This quick process allows you to access information at such a quick speed that there is no time to process, just to listen to your gut. This is called quick logic, and it gets you out of your processing and directly to the answer. 

Dee:

I’ll use this method to decide who will go first in a game.  Or Eeny-Meeny-Miny-Moe.  Maybe even Rock-Paper-Scissors.  But for decisions with a bit more weight, I’ll use my God Box, patience and faith.

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Know Yourself 

The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the easier it is to make choices that align with who you are. Being a student of how your body works (https://store.chopra.com/dosha-quiz), and what your core values are can help. 

Dee:

This is a gift I’ve been given by getting sober, allowing a Power Greater Than Myself to guide me through life, and by working the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with a person I trust.  I have learned that most of my life had been driven by fear.  Most of it I do not understand as it makes no sense to me.  However, by learning today to live through my feelings and not my thinking, I no longer have to, nor wish to, expend unnecessary energy on the reasons. 

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By learning to live without fear and with the faith that a Higher Power has my back, I have grown to become more comfortable in my own skin.  The person who looked in the mirror and called herself a loser while in active addiction has finally accepted who and what she is, with all her gifts…and flaws.  And by staying in the present moment, learning and growing and becoming a better human being because of my past, and having no fear, but faith, regarding the future…all is perfect.  I am perfect! 

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Encourage Yourself 

Remember a time when you made a hard choice successfully. The stories you tell yourself about your ability to make successful choices will either buoy you up or weigh you down in future choices. 

Dee:

I’m getting older by the minute (and let me add, I wouldn’t go back a second from this content state of being I’m in now!).  It’s taking a lot more energy to accomplish things the older I get.  So today I choose to expend all my energy in a positive direction.  When I have a hard choice, I’ve embraced it, thanked it for coming, and given it to my Higher Power, I know I still have to do the foot work.  I need to get it done, cross it off my list, and move forward.  

I have a 50-50 chance that it will go my way.  If it doesn’t, learn, embrace, let go and move forward.  I can’t afford nor choose to have anything weigh me down.  It does not serve me.  I’ll be fine.  I’ll be a better person when I can move forward.

Take a Musical Interlude 

Spending a moment blasting your favorite rock n’ roll ballad or listening to a peaceful song takes you to a different part of your brain. When the song finishes, it’s almost like gaining a fresh perspective.  

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Dee:

Aaahhh, Grasshopper.  Such a true statement.  I have bunched my favorite songs together on my computer, phone, and other electronic devices so that at a push of a button, I am a new person.  My body moves.  My blood flows.  I’m in my happy place.  And when I sing, I breathe.  Sometimes unknowingly I am not breathing.  Go figure.

Delay Deciding 

Give yourself a vacation from decisions. If you can wait until tomorrow, sleeping on it allows your brain a little respite from the work of decision-making. It’s amazing that your brain continues to work on integrating information to help with choices while you sleep. You just might discover that the answer is more obvious after a good night of rest. 

Dee:

I love being married no a “normie” (doesn’t have a problem with alcohol or drugs).  He has chosen to not attend, learn about, have anything to do with any support groups, such as Al Anon.  However, he has witnessed me living a life of sobriety, having relapses, working with others, doing homework, reading, etc.  And he has picked up on so much of the spiritual way I strive to live.  And I love it when he makes fun of me on that path I have chosen.  We have good fun.

When I have a decision to make and it’s too late to call my sponsor, he suggests that I sleep on it.  Huh?  I want to get this done NOW!  So I sleep on it and awaken with the answer as clear as day.  These crazy kind of things happen to me a lot and I can’t explain it.  It makes no sense.  Like having the obsession to drink and drug removed one morning when I walked out to the patio.  So bizarre!  (And thank you, God!)

Life is full of seemingly impossible decisions. In the present, they can seem like obstacles to overcome, but your choices define not only who you are, but also how you want to spend your time. Have gratitude that you have the freedom to choose, and know that no matter how your decision unfolds, you have made the right choice for you in that moment.  

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As Anne Frank said, “Our lives are fashioned by our choices. First we make our choices. Then our choices make us.” 

Dee:

My life has been altered by my being an alcoholic.  In 1998 I did not have choices.  I HAD DO DRINK.  I had to drink everyday.  My life revolved about drinking.  Today my journey has brought me to a calm and beautiful life where I do have choices.  Today I do NOT have to drink.  I can if I want.  But I respect the disease of alcoholism enough to know that ONE IS NEVER ENOUGH.  I’ve tried it.  The first drink caused my brain to yell “MORE!”

Treatment programs and, more importantly, Alcoholics Anonymous (for whom I do not work nor represent, but am a true believer that this program works…for me) has given me a life beyond my wildest dreams.  I have contentment that I never even wanted, but I got it anyway.  I feel good in my skin and love myself for who and what I am.  I make positive choices and practice self-care. 

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Dang!  It’s all such common sense yet I had to go through various chapters in my life to bring me to this page of my book.  I encourage you to find this place of gratitude and serenity in your life whether you struggle with substance abuse, physical and mental abuse, depression, or just life itself.  It’s not easy but you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be!

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Embrace your journey.  Make positive choices.  Know that you are not unique and are not to blame or be guilt-ridden.  Together we can all find peace in this crazy world we live in and share our unique gifts with others in need.  Today I have a purpose and that is to share my Experience, Strength and Hope with all  who enter my Dee Bubble.

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I’m glad you made it!  And thank you for reading.  I encourage any comments, concerns or feedback on anything.  I live a rigorously honest life today, but I’m gentle and compassionate.

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Hope and Inspiration, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

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About the Author 

Tamara Lechner (/bios/tamara-lechner) Certified Instructor: Meditation 

Tamara Lechner is a happiness expert and Chopra-Certified Primordial Sound Meditation (/articles/what- is-primordial-sound-meditation) Instructor. Her mission is to be so happy that those around her cannot help but step into her light. She enjoys writing, speaking, and teaching about how a positive mindset affects business, relationships, health, and life satisfaction. Tamara is often found throwing epic parties or walking barefoot in the sand. Join her on The Happiness Trajectory (http://www.ahamoments4u.com/free-online–the-happiness-trajectory.html), a free online mindset reboot, or find out more about her at… Read more (/bios/tamara-lechner) 

The Chopra Center 3/28/17

 

7 Virtues for Self-Improvement

7 Virtues for Self-Improvement 

By Melissa Eisler

Virtues are universal moral habits that are widely recognized as good character traits. By practicing virtues every day, you can build and live a purposeful and value-driven life. After a week of focusing on doing good, you’ll notice that you’re attracting more positivity and happiness into your life. 

Some might say that virtuous qualities are innate or developed early in life, but you can also learn and cultivate virtues so that they become more prevalent and habitual in your daily life. By practicing being more virtuous, you can live a more intentional life with greater fulfillment, peace, and joy. Here are seven common virtues. Focus on one a day for a week to gain insight into yourself and bring more joy to those   around you. 

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Dee:

I always thought I was a good, kind person.  But it wasn’t until I got into recovery from alcoholism that I discovered that I was a mean and self-centered human being.  That word “thought” in my first sentence is a word I am grateful to be releasing from my vocabulary.  Being in recovery, becoming more a spiritual being, means for me I no longer have to think so much, to understand it all, but to feel and to live from my heart.  What a foreign way to live my life, but so freeing!

When I left a 28-day alcohol treatment program it was suggested to stay on track that I attend AA meetings and do what was suggested to me there.  I did.  I attended meetings.  I got a Big Book.  I got a sponsor.  I worked the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with my sponsor.  I got into service.  I got better.

Working the Steps with my sponsor showed me how fear-based I had been living my life.  With that fear came defensiveness and selfishness.  I knew no other way.  I hadn’t been taught a different way to be.  That part of my journey didn’t come until I reached rock bottom and then found recovery. 

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When I made my amends to my kids they told me how mean I was.  I was baffled.  Just like alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful.  When I got the drink in me I turned into another creature; it brought out the worst in me.  And I certainly didn’t like “that” person.  As a matter of fact, I loathed and hated her and called her a loser when I saw her in the mirror.  I also had no purpose and felt I was a waste of space on this planet.  How sad is that to have lived 50 years of my life purposelessly?  Again, my journey with a Higher Power in my life today that knows “When the student is ready, the Master appears.” 

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I don’t know if that mean person in me is really who I am inside or who I became when the alcohol changed me.  It doesn’t matter.  Again, no need spending precious energy dwelling on that.  All I know is that today…finally…I am comfortable in my own skin and can truly say I love myself for who and what I am and what my journey has given me.  Virtuous qualities innate or developed, learned or cultivated?  Doesn’t matter.  Today I live as rigorously honest as I can, being me, not fearing your thoughts of me.  Today I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power Greater Than Me.  And today I emanate something good that I don’t even know is happening that attracts people to me in a wonderful way.  Do I understand this?  Nope.

1. Acceptance 

Are you facing a challenge in your life right now or experiencing an emotion you would rather not face? Join the club—this is part of the human experience. The trick here is to reduce resisting experiences that come your way, where you are unable to affect change. Practicing acceptance does not necessarily mean you like, want, support, or endorse everything you cross paths with.

Rather, it means you’re choosing to allow it to be there without resistance, when you can’t change  it anyway. 

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To practice acceptance, identify anything in your life you feel you may be resisting. Notice if there is something you can do to change the situation for the better, and if not, begin the process of releasing that resistance and embracing acceptance. Just as the familiar Serenity Prayer states, “God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”  

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Dee:

When something is bugging the hell out of you I can suggest that you embrace it, thank it for coming, and then let it go…whisked away into the clouds softly and forever.  Well why can’t I walk my talk?  Because I need to dwell in my doo doo for just awhile longer, beat up on myself, and wait to get to that point where I can no longer take it.  Why can I not remember for myself that everything is perfect at this moment? 

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2. Authenticity 

To be authentic is to feel at home in yourself and be true to your values. Authenticity is important in creating healthy relationships, but it can also be challenging to practice on a daily basis due to fear. You may fear that if you showed up as you truly are—saying, doing, and feeling the things within you without censoring yourself— that others might reject you.  

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To practice authenticity, do something that truly reflects your deepest needs, wishes, and values. Give up changing your behavior because of the desire to be liked. Speak up for yourself and say/do what’s in your heart. 

Dee:

Finding out who I am and what makes me tick by working the Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous was the most eye-opening journey I have ever walked.  I feel such a weight off my shoulders knowing how fear-based I lived most of my life and why.

Today I accept it, embrace it, and let it whisk away whilst concentrating on self-love and self-care.  Turn my head off.  Meditate.  A bit of yoga.  Get out in nature.  Enjoy quiet.  Write. 

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Today I get to live in rigorous honesty.  I was so exhausted from lying, hiding and cheating for decades in my active disease.  No more.  I’ve got to use my energy in positive ways.  And today my Higher Power has given me purpose…to share my experience, strength and hope with whoever enters my Dee bubble and might need a ray of light and inspiration, a glimpse of hope, some optimism, and knowing no one needs to go through anything, ever, alone!

3. Compassion 

Sara Schairer, founder of Compassion It, a nonprofit dedicated to the social movement of fostering daily compassionate actions and attitudes, defines compassion (https://chopra.com/articles/whats-the-difference- between-empathy-sympathy-and-compassion) as “the willingness to relieve the suffering of another.” It can be difficult to sit with your own suffering or observe/feel it from someone else. But like the other virtues, compassion is a skill that gets easier with practice.  

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Practicing compassion for someone (this can be yourself) who is suffering can come in many different forms. To get started, read Sara’s article (https://chopra.com/articles/4-steps-to-finding-peace-through-compassion) and follow its four steps. Before you know it, you will be connecting with others and yourself in a more meaningful way. (https://chopra.com/free-programs/discover-your-purpose-toolkit?_ga=2.12561396.1726373736.1526314196- 557740326.1524243263) 

Dee:

One thing I do daily to keep myself centered, grounded, humble and grateful is to thank my Higher Power for everything, and I mean everything.  If it doesn’t go my way or isn’t what I want I know there are no coincidences and that I am meant to learn from it, grow, and become a better person.

I also ask my Higher Power to help me to be mindful, compassionate, respectful and loving.  That means for me to make eye contact with you and give you my complete attention.  Shut my head off from my to-do list.  I ask my Higher Power to help me not judge, to put myself in your shoes.  I have no clue what your life is like or what you’ve been through.  But your sharing your journey with me will help me better understand and, again, grow and be a better person. 

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4. Curiosity

When you’re curious, problem solving becomes easier because you see more options, paths, and ways of solving a problem than your non-curious counterparts. You question more; you gather more opinions; you don’t stop at the first solution–which can lead to greater possibilities. 

To truly embrace an attitude of curiosity means you begin to question things in your life and the world around you with no attachment to the answer. This last part is the key. Even if the subject at hand is something you know a lot about–pretend like you are getting to know it for the first time and with wonder, begin to inquire, observe, and learn. To do this without judgment requires an incredibly high degree of openness. Embracing curiosity involves playfulness, lightness, and openness–all fun qualities to practice, so remember to enjoy the process! 

Dee:

Of course I have curiosity.  Thank God for Google.  But if I can’t get the answer I need, if technology isn’t going smoothly today, I let it go for now.  If I feel the answer to my curiosity isn’t going to be something that serves me favorably, I let that go, too.  I only have x amount of energy and I must pick and choose how I spend my time.  I always choose to spend it in a positive way.  A way that will help me and others to achieve our highest good.

Another option I always have waiting for me is my God Box.  If I’m in a dilemma and don’t know which way to turn or what choice to make, I put it in the God Box.  This alcoholic wants instant answers and gratification.  I’m learning my Higher Power is teaching me patience and faith. 

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5. Forgiveness 

Forgiveness can be difficult to achieve, especially toward loved ones who you feel have wronged you in some way. To forgive is to let go of anger and bitterness, making room for peace and love. 

To begin practicing this virtue, focus on someone to start forgiving. Read Deepak Chopra’s 7 Steps to Forgiveness (https://chopra.com/articles/the-7-steps-to-forgiveness) to get you started, and then put those steps into action. 

Dee:

It’s been easier for me to forgive others I feel have wronged me by putting myself in their shoes.  Again, I have no idea of their journey nor hardships.  I also live by Don Miguel Ruiz’s agreement of “Don’t take things personally” from his book, The Four Agreements.

If you want to live a positive, light life, let go of the negative shit, the wrongs done to you and the hardships you face.  Try to look at the glass half-full and make a positive out of your negatives.  I promise you there is a positive.  Remember to be grateful for this moment.  There are many on this planet who would love to live in your worst day! 

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6. Courage 

There are different types of courage, including physical strength, endurance, mental stamina, and innovation. No matter the type of courage you’re trying to embrace, the presence of fear is part of the process. Ultimately, courage doesn’t mean that you aren’t afraid, it means that you take action despite your fear. As Nelson Mandela said, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who  conquers that fear.” 

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To practice being courageous, you’re going to have to face a fear in your life. It can be something small, like singing in the shower, or something big, like confronting (https://chopra.com/articles/mindful-confrontation-9- steps-to-handle-conflict-in-a-healthy-way) a friend. You choose where to begin. Another good way to practice courage is do something new every day. This widens your comfort zone and allows you to experience things you may not otherwise try.  

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Dee:

How many times have we dreaded something we have to face, dwelled on it until it made us sick and sleepless only to find out once face that it wasn’t that bad?  Today I just want to cross if off my damned “to do” list and move on, rather than moving it to the next day, the next day, week, then month.  For pity sake.  It’s a negative.  Embrace it.  Do it.  Let it go. 

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7. Detachment 

The Law of Detachment (https://chopra.com/articles/the-law-of-detachment) states that you should detach yourself, and your ability to be happy, from a desired outcome. Otherwise, attachment to a specific outcome will show up as disappointment when/if that outcome doesn’t happen. 

Find out what you’re attached to—is it a goal? An object? A person?—and follow these five steps (https://chopra.com/articles/5-steps-to-detaching-for-a-happier-life) to detach for a happier life. 

Dee:

“No expectations…no disappointments.”  I love this quote, affirmation, slogan I learned in AA.  So true.  Expectations for me means going into the future.  Why am I going there?  All I have is this moment here and now in front of my nose.  So don’t shit on it.  Why am I “thinking” I can control people, places or things?  My Higher Power has got my back and will protect and guide me on the journey best for me.  So  stop it, Dee.  Detach.

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If you’ve made it this far and kept up with the recommended practices, you’ve probably gained some wisdom along the way. Wisdom—another virtue [noun: goodness, virtuousness, righteousness, morality, integrity, dignity, rectitude, honor, decency, respectability, nobility, worthiness, purity; principles, ethics.]—is about utilizing knowledge and experience with commonsense and insight. 

Which virtue did you find the most challenging to practice? Which was the most fun? Take the knowledge and experience you’ve gained from these exercises and see how you can incorporate these virtues into your everyday life. 

Dee:

My most challenging virtue is walking my talk…staying positive, optimistic and in the moment.  But when I bring myself back to earth and get right-sized with my Higher Power, everything falls back into place, including myself.  

The most fun virtue is just being me, that kid in me, spontaneous and goofy…all about fun!  I stress to my kids who are adults now, “Never grow up.  Never lose sight of your passions!”  And with that I thank you for taking time to read this.  I truly welcome any feedback.

And if you find yourself in a funk know that you are not alone.  Contact me.  Contact the wealth of support services in your area.  Together we can get through anything and make this world a better place!

With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in Art with a Message of Well-Being and Self-Love, please visit my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Mahalo and enjoy!

Remember the intention of focusing on your virtues is for you to become more aware of your actions and live a value-driven life—not to master each virtue after one day. See if you can find ways to practice virtues each day. Over time, they will become daily habits. 

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 When You Feel Like Crap, And What To Do About It 

 When You Feel Like Crap, And What To Do About It 

by Josiah Samuel Harry 

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You are vertical and ventilating, but you still feel like crap.  Every success initiative you employ seems to flop.  Your dreams and goals appear to be out of reach, and you’re no longer enjoying life as you once did.  Even the universe itself seems to be conspiring against you.  So how do you get yourself out of the shitty mood and get back on the path to success? 

Start your day with positive affirmation.  Make it a habit to avoid thoughts or conversations that undermine your dreams.  Do not give power and energy to negativity or anything that will deplete your mental strength.  Instead, you ought to retrain your focus on motivating energy.  Do your best to use positive words when talking.  Start your day with statements like: “I am so happy and grateful to see another beautiful day” or “I love myself for who I am” or “I will put forth my best effort and accept responsibility for my success and happiness.” 

Dee:

I use positive affirmations regularly.  I am a firm believer they work, to at least get me back in the moment in front of me.

When I was in an alcohol treatment program our group started our day reciting an affirmation we chose for ourselves.  I chose “I am a good person.  I am a whole person”.  Well, for starts, I’m in rehab so I’m not feeling real good about myself.  As a matter of fact, I feel like shit, a loser, a waste of space on the planet.  I cannot go a day without drinking.

The treatment program taught me I have the disease of alcoholism.  Then one day at a time, doing what was suggested to me there and in the rooms of AA, I began to get better.  I continued repeating that affirmation daily.  It took a long time but eventually I did feel like a good person and a whole person.  Today I not only feel it, I know I AM it!

I am also finding that it takes a lot of energy to be in a shitty mood.  It’s so much easier and lighter to be positive and optimistic.  So there’s another choice I have made to better myself and my life.  The energy I have today will be used in a helpful, hopeful, and useful way.

So if I feel shitty or have shitty thoughts I say, “Thank you for coming.  I embrace you.  You do not serve me, so please go.”  And then I allow those feeling and thoughts to be whisked away into the clouds.

Shift your paradigm.  A paradigm is a host of thoughts, ideas, and experiences that frame one’s reality.  In order to see success through its fulfillment, it necessitates adopting new beliefs that bridge your ridiculously-impossible dream with effort, skill, passion.  If your goals are small, then your effort will follow suit, and your success outcomes will likely be small.  This isn’t to say that bigger is always better, but sometimes it is. 

Dee:

I hope to never give up being a kid with a wild imagination and dreams and hopes.  If I give that up why bother going on?  There is nothing to look forward to or to be excited about.

I allow the dreams and hopes to surface from my heart and not my head.  My head seems to stifle my aspirations with rationalizations and fear.  My heart fills me with joy and potential.  Therefore, I choose to live today with a new m.o…from my heart and not my head…from that angel on my shoulder and not the devil on the other shoulder.   

And I have found that living this way, and by turning my will and my life over to the care of a Power Greater Than Myself (as suggested in the rooms of AA), I DO get to experience the Promises (pages 83-84, Chapter 6 “Into Action”, in Alcoholics Anonymous, written by Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob)…in a way far greater than I could ever have imagined!

Match your actions with your ambitions.  If your goal is to establish a functional stable Mars colony, then you will need a spacecraft large and powerful enough to get you to Mars.  In order to experience high-level success, you must prioritize and devote a ton of time to the tasks that will get you closer to your goals.  Don’t let the mantra: “Everybody wants to be a winner until it’s time to do what winners do” define your reality. 

Dee:

Actions speak louder than words.  Walk my talk.  But I don’t want to.  I don’t have time.  It’s not fun.  

I used these excuses in my business I started five years ago.  Putting together an online business requires knowledge and computer skills.  Didn’t light a spark in me 5 years ago.  It was suggested to me to do certain things that, again, didn’t float my boat.  So 5 years later with just a so-so business I have chosen to better myself and my business.

I have enrolled in on-line courses, narrowing down to one particular instructor who fits me and my needs.  Hours, months, years of research.  I am finally doing what is suggested and the spark is starting to ignite.  You see, “When the student is ready, the master appears.”  Now is my time, not 5 years ago.

So the last few months I have poured myself into redesigning my website, focusing on my brand and target market, concentrating on policies and procedures.  And today I am exited to do this.  When the time is right…when I am right…it will happen!

Pivot.  To pivot is to change direction and make necessary adjustments to get you on a path that will lead to considerable growth and success.  When you conclude that you are no longer on the correct path based on experience and evidence, then it is time to redirect your time, money, and effort to another success initiative.  Sometimes you have the right idea, but there isn’t a market for that idea, yet.  So fish where the fish are, and remember to use the right bait. 

Dee:

So changing my direction and remembering who and what I am…an alcoholic in recovery with a purpose to share my experience, strength and hope…I have concentrated my efforts on a business to do just that…offer compassion, mindfulness and optimism to those who are seeking that.

I remember how important affirmations are to my life so I share them with my target market in a fun and beautiful way.  I have created art with a message to offer enjoyment and a reminder to stay in the moment and embrace who and what you are, right here, right now.  It’s finally making sense to me.  The fire is finally lit and the kid in me is excited to go to work every morning like being in a candy store.

Persist.  To persist means to rise to the occasion when your best performance is needed most—and that’s every day.  Remaining focused on accomplishing your goals in the face of opposition, setbacks, and unforeseen challenges is hard work.  Achieving your greatest potential takes time—meaning years, even decades.  Nonetheless, if you desire to experience unparalleled success, then you must be willing to stretch beyond the limits of your creative endurance. 

The common denominator among the five points above is perspective.  That is, setting high and realistic expectations for yourself and celebrating the path you are on while learning and growing. 

Dee:

So this journey of improving my business is interconnected with my journey of improving myself and my life in recovery.  Yes, we do all have to earn a living and I have chosen a path that allows my passion to thrive.

And it takes heaps of time, endurance, patience…improving my life and my business.  It is exciting to know that I am right where I need to be and that my Higher Power has my back and is guiding me in the direction that is best for me, one that serves me by serving HIm.

Yes, I’ve got to keep everything in perspective.  Remember to stay in the moment which means to stay grateful, and humble, and to Turn It Over.  It’s all interconnected.  We are all interconnected.  No coincidences.

Mahalo for being here.  With warmest aloha, Dee Harris

For those interested in checking out my Art with a Message of hope and optimism using motivational quotes and affirmations, please check out my website at www.DeesignsByHarris.com.  Enjoy!

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